One of the best moments of a woman’s life is when she discovers how fulfilling friendships with other women can be. For Aliss Bonython, a 22-year-old student in England, Instagram was an integral part of her journey of finding female friendships.
“The body-positive Instagram community is home to a wide range of women from different backgrounds and when we can come together to preach that body positivity is about inclusivity that's when it's magic.”
Aliss’ Instagram (@alissbonyt) is dedicated to her recovery journey with anorexia where she offers “advice for people in the same situation trying to make a better life for themselves. I work to show different types of bodies in the media and how unphotoshopped images are beautiful and need to be seen.”
On top of her call to help others, Aliss also has a deep interest in politics and the world she’s growing up in.
“I'd love to get a coffee with Jeremy Corbyn -
he's a British politician who was almost prime minister earlier this year and has incredibly progressive views about youth unemployment and housing and issues with racism in the U.K. And how to tackle them.”
As any activist knows, the importance of taking time for self-care and do the things you enjoy will make or break you. Thankfully, Aliss has a great support system and a routine that helps her keep herself in check.
“I have some incredible friends and family who support me and what I'm doing. My best friend
who lives with me is always there whenever I need her and constantly tells me that my view point and what I do to promote positivity has changed her view on herself and others. She helps remind me of who I am and what I'm doing.
“My average day consists of waking up and turning on some music (my favourite playlist right now is Sweet Soul Sunday) making some coffee and breakfast - usually toast and avocado - then get ready for class. If I don't have many or any classes that day I'll head to the gym or library, and sometimes I'll go grab coffee with my mom or sister.
When I need a pick me up, I take time to relax. I might put on a face mask and snuggle on the sofa and watch a movie with my best friend or if my nephew is in town I love taking care of him – he makes my heart melt.”
The most important parts of her message is that this is a lifelong journey.
“I work hard to make sure I don't slip back into self-loathing. I remind myself that my worth has never and will never be based on how I look, and that beauty is entirely subjective. I think I would say to my younger self that, however cliche this may sound, it gets better. No matter who or what you have lost, there are still people in your life that will give anything to make you feel better. You are going to be successful in ways you never knew and it will never be tainted by how you look.”