Written By: Kimberly Davis
When you grow up on Disney movies, rom coms, and chick-lit you get used to a certain mindset. The “boy meets girl and they fall in love” mindset; nothing is inherently wrong with this, so you’re probably wondering what my gripe is. I have just one question: why couldn’t Cinderella approach Prince Charming first? Why are girls taught that we have to wait for the guy to approach us first, and in the same vein, wait for them to make the first move?
If you find yourself interested in someone, male or female, and you’re unaware if the feeling is mutual I challenge you to go and find out. Just because someone isn’t chasing after you, doesn’t mean they aren’t interested or that they couldn’t be interested in you. The person may just be afraid of rejection (because who isn’t afraid of rejection?), have a more introverted personality, or they just haven’t looked at you in that light (yet).
There is nothing wrong with a little initiation, people aren’t mind readers. And let’s be totally honest here, some guys are oblivious and need things to be spelled out for them. I mean, think back to all the people you’ve been interested in; why didn’t you approach them? We’ve been self-sabotaging ourselves here. Unfortunately our love lives can’t be like an 80s movie. We can’t ride off into the sunset on a lawn mower, and Judd Nelson won’t thrust his fist in the air because he won your affections if we don’t make the first move every once in a while.
I’m in no way saying our crushes shouldn’t put in the effort for our affections, I’m saying it’s 2018 and we shouldn’t be afraid to make the first move. I’m saying to slap on some lipstick, square those shoulders, hold your head high and ask for their number, ask to go out for a drink sometime. What’s the worst they could say? No? If that’s the case, we don’t want someone who doesn’t want us.