Self-care is a common word in our modern vocabulary. The 21st century experience guarantees us various ways of caring for ourselves, and most of them include a good old pampering session. Treating yourself means taking yourself out for a nice meal, buying that jacket you’ve wanted for the past six months, and maybe even getting a new hairdo.
The whole premise revolves around allowing ourselves the liberty to acquire the things we wish for, but don’t get, because we don’t allow it. By granting us freedom to “spoil” ourselves, we are comforting our troubled minds with material things, that in the end of the day give us fleeting happiness and a sense of security.
It’s a good coping mechanism, and it can be very fun to gather your friends and take a day off at the spa, but what happens when the brief joy of getting a massage goes way? What if we return to the feeling of unease, sadness and stress that drove us to procure this momentary solution? Then self-care stops being so fun, and it starts becoming slightly harder.
Looking into our lives and assessing what’s causing us to feel unhappy can be troubling, difficult and frankly, quite boring. Introspection is a skill that needs to be practiced everyday and harvested to its full potential.
Sometimes, self-care is calling your therapist and booking a session because you need help with your mental health. Other times, it's looking at your schedule, your relationships, your work environment, and trying to figure out what’s causing you to feel bad.
Working on a resolution to change what’s causing you grief is not going to bring you the immediate satisfaction of a peeling mask, but in the long run, it will help with the overall state of your mind. Although face masks are very enjoyable and a valid addiction to treating yourself mentally, sometimes a little bit of reasoning is necessary to the routine.