Our culture puts a lot of stock in independence. We admire people who go on solo treks through the wilderness in the name of self-discovery and applaud “self-made” people who achieve success with little or no help from others. We’ve reached a point where dependency on others is seen as weakness.
What a lonely way to think about life.
Self-discovery is critical to success and fulfillment in life, but somewhere along the line, we decided that accepting help along that path invalidated the success. Whether it’s a fear of having to share credit or a pride thing, we’ve become conditioned to refuse help.
Community is the answer to fear, despair, and isolation. A solid support system will obviously make you feel less alone, but can advise you when you’re lost, comfort you when you’re sad, and be there for you when you need a shoulder to lean on or cry on. People are better than no people. Loneliness and solitude only exacerbate sadness.
When people are raising children, they often say, “It takes a village.” Well, it also takes a village to navigate adulthood. We were not meant to go through this life alone. Community is essential to thriving. Surround yourself with good, supportive people who will love on you and support you and show up for you when you need someone. It’s not a sign a weakness. Community will strengthen you.