Let’s discuss friendships. In every stage of our lives we make friends based off of similar circumstances or situations. When we’re in middle school we tend to make friends that listen to the same music, that are in our classes everyday, or lived in our neighborhood. In high school we make friends with people in our extra curricular activity clubs, or people we’re around regularly. But at each stage of our lives, or friends change and some stick around but most don’t… and that’s perfectly ok.
It can be hard to come to terms that you’re outgrowing a friend, especially if you’ve been friends for awhile. But in a way, it’s actually a good sign and here’s why: you’re outgrowing your old self. As we get older, our priorities change. Whether it be looking for a family and settling down, or being a free spirit and traveling and experiencing new adventures, you and your friends are traveling down different life paths. And this can make having meaningful conversations difficult.
Working towards your personal goals and finding new friends that not only support those goals, but are also like-minded, doesn’t make you a bad person. It’s pointless to live in the past. You may have had good times in the past, and it’s important to cherish those moments, but time only moves forward, and you’re definitely not the same person you were 5 years ago, 5 months ago, 5 weeks ago, or even 5 days ago.
It’s also important to note that while you may be outgrowing them, it doesn’t mean you have to cut them off completely! As long as they aren’t a toxic friend, keep them in your life, remain friends on social media and stay up to date on each others lives. They may not be a priority anymore, but they were at some point. It’s okay to outgrow our friends, but new more fulfilling relationships are waiting just around the corner for you.