Why you shouldn't fake orgasms

Written By: Kimberly Davis


There’s usually a lot of pressure leading up to the first time you have sex. Whether you’ve decided to wait for a specific reason or are just trying to get it over with as soon as possible, the first time you have sex can be awkward, exciting, and slightly nauseating and pretty much any feeling you can think of. Just remember that as long as you’re having safe, consensual (consent is hot) sex, you’re already doing everything right. A little awkwardness never killed anybody. Just remember…

Don’t fake an orgasm


You don’t want to create any unrealistic expectations, and most women don’t orgasm the first time they have sex. Faking orgasms only makes it harder to communicate the things you need to get there in the future. Plus, once you form the habit of faking it, it’ll be harder to quit in the future. Like biting your nails when you’re nervous.

Don’t compare your experience with anyone else’s

Also keep in mind that if when you look back on this experience later, not to beat yourself up about it. Especially if you waited to share the experience with a long term partner and you two are separated now. It only matters that you had fun in the moment, and were enthusiastic about the experience.

Remember to breathe


Deep breathing is a great way to get rid of distracting thoughts. It’ll help you to relax, which will in turn help make things a little less uncomfortable.

Above all, remember to have fun. Don’t focus on your partner seeing you completely naked (no need to feel self-conscious, you’re beautiful regardless). Sex is messy, human, and flawed and awkward regardless if it’s your first time or your thousandth. It's the exploration that makes it fun.

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