I am a strong believer in self-care toolboxes—the go-to strategies, techniques, and practices that help you nourish and care for yourself (and deal with emotional emergencies). And just like you might use a hammer or a screwdriver depending on the project, with self-care toolboxes, different days call for different practices.
Writing, dancing, meditation, walking, and yoga are all in my toolbox, but today I want to share with you a technique that isn’t as well known (though I have a feeling it will be a common tool soon enough with women like Gabby Bernstein and Erykah Badu singing its praises.)
It’s called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or Tapping, and it can help with chronic pain, emotional problems, addictions, phobias, post traumatic stress disorder, and even physical ailments.
How does it work? Basically, it involves using your fingertips to tap on a series of meridian energy points on the body while focusing on an emotion, problem, or injury. You can think of it as kind of like acupuncture without the needles. The best part is that it is a healing practice that is fast, free, and that you can do yourself (talk about taking your wellness into your own hands).
I discovered tapping a number of years ago through wellness wonder woman Kris Carr. At the time I thought it sounded pretty weird, looked silly, and I wasn’t sure how it would ever benefit me. Cut to a few months later, and I was going through a difficult breakup. I remembered about EFT, and decided to try, tapping through the points while focusing on my feelings of sadness, frustration, and anxiety around the relationship.
Did I feel like an idiot patting my head and tapping my chin while speaking out loud? Of course! Did it help? Yup! For me, it seemed like tapping helped me get straight to the core of my emotions and release them in a way I hadn’t felt before. Ever since then, tapping has been an often-used addition to my toolbox.
My interest in tapping increased when I read Jessica Ortner’s book “The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss and Body Confidence” before my wedding. If you read my article about my wedding, you know I chose not to focus on losing weight, so at first I was resistant. I wanted a way to love my body, not change it. Then I read this:
“What I love about tapping is how quickly and powerfully it can connect us to our bodies. When we feel that connection, we don’t need to think about how to be perfect. Instead we feel what it really means to be ourselves. We take care of our bodies, not to please someone else or to live up to an ideal but because we believe in our own worth.”
Amen, sister! That is what it is all about. Period. Connecting to ourselves, our bodies. Knowing our worth. That is the truth we must return to again and again, with whatever tools are necessary.
So if you’re curious about tapping or want to add another practice to your toolbox, check out Gabby Bernstein’s interview with Jessica Ortner here as well as the amazing Erykah Badu’s recent facebook post about her experience with tapping here.