You are more than just your relationship

Don’t get me wrong, I’m in a great relationship and I love my boyfriend to bits. But I get instant anxiety when I think about being around each other 24/7.  And speaking of anxiety, if girls constantly talk about ‘we’ instead of ‘I’ I want to throw myself against a wall. Because girlfriend, you are so much more than the relationship you’re in. I mean, you are awesome, le boyfriend is awesome and the two of you together are flipping amazeballs. But you should always keep in mind that you are more than perfect as your own individual. So please throw those ‘you complete me’ quotes out of the window (sorry Tom Cruise) and go do something sassy on your own today.

And let’s be honest. Even though we love our men more than a large KFC bucket, we do need some time of our own every now and then. After a long stressed out workweek you really need to clear your head. Read a book or watch an entire season of Sex And The City are things you do best all by yourself. Or accompanied by a large chocolate bar and gallons of tea. Trust me, he will totally understand and use that time alone to go all out with the video games.

Speaking of these video games. It is great that you guys have so many common interests. But there must be some things you love and he doesn’t (and vice versa). Never give up on those things! Make time for your passions and let him watch those three soccer games in a row while you bake those triple-chocolate cupcakes with caramel frosting and sprinkles.

What I’m trying to say is that love is all about support and respect. Not about constant attention. And when you are in a relationship that is based on support and respect, those few hours or days apart won’t even matter. They will be good for the two of you because it will be much more special when you see each other again. Something about ‘distance makes the heart grow fonder’..  So schedule in that me-time and snuggle up on the couch with Carrie and Samantha and work on your relationship whilst doing that. Sounds like a plan to me!