A couple of years ago, when I was still working on my master's (and had no clear idea about what I wanted to do in life), my dad asked: me what do you want to be?... Holy shit, that was a tough question. It caught me off guard, and I felt pressure to say something that made sense. After all, he was sponsoring my studies abroad, and I didn't want him to know how lost I was still in life.
Good thing I wad a couple of whiskeys on my head, and I decided to open up my heart, and tell him what I actually wanted to be. I remember telling him: "you know what dad? I don't know have a specific job title in mind. I just know I want to be someone that people want to work with" (Obviously this was a Spanish conversation, and I'm roughly translating the key message). He seemed convinced with my answer, and agreed to that statement. Yasss!!
The little he knew, I was just analyzing his professional career, and telling him I wanted to be like him. Here are a couple of characteristics of him I admire, and I'm still looking forward to replicate:
- Knowledgeable and accesible: Dad's a great architect, and one of the most reputable man in my hometown (it's a small one). However, he would never reject opinions of his colleagues, and would never be around bragging about his achievements, and diminishing people. "stay on top of your sh!t, because the world is always changing", "Read, and nourish your brain" "Let your actions speak louder than your words" he has always said.
- Respect above all - It doesn't matter where you come from, or how much money you have. Respect is earned, and it's a must be your moto when you're dealing with coworkers (and ever single person in this world). Stay true to your beliefs, and be honest no matter what
- Hard work will pay off - When i was growing up, we were tight with expenses. Dad worked more than 60 hours per week, mom studied and worked at the same time... Nowadays, I can say that we live more than comfortable. The naive ones call it luck. I say that working his a$$ off when he was younger paid off
- Do never settle - From him, I've learned that it's important to enjoy the life journey, to be grateful with what you have, but to always look for the next step. To stay hungry, and relentless.
I know it might sound like a basic list. However, that's part of the DNA of my guide to become "who I want to be". Maybe I'm melancholic because this year is almost gone, and heck yeah it was a rough one. All I hope is that I'm becoming that person, that people want to work with!
Have you ever thought "what you want to be"? Drop me a line at @mariitatorres. I would LOVE to hear from you!
With much love,