“It's gonna be ok" they say when you feel like your whole life is shifting faster than a solar eclipse. Crying your eyeballs out and then they say “aw don't cry". What are you suppose to say??!! “Oh, stop crying? Oh ok.Lets go get a latte instead!” NO! Grieving, whether it's over a life gone forever or a relationship or just a bad f* day, its ok to cry. It's ok to be sad. It's ok to be frustrated. It's ok to just be anything.
We feel as if society frowns upon the weak. It's not called being weak friends. Its called having emotions, being human. Something we all need to be.Validate your feelings. Its healthy to express your emotions that have bottled up inside. Shit, if you want to throw a tennis ball in your room, then do it! Go for a run, lift heavy weights, throw shit out,listen to heavy rock, or write about what is bothering you. Thinking a good shower cry into your loofah does the trick, then do it. Listening to sad sappy songs? Press repeat,it's cool. Whatever you choose to do, just make sure it's legal and not harmful to you or others.(Felt like I had to write a disclaimer of some sort. Seek help if your emotions start to get out of control.)
Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the structure that makes learning to live without something or someone helpful in identifying our real feelings. As soon as you hit the acceptance phase, it's tiiiiiime!! Slap on those heels, dab some perfume on ya and get out there and do ‘yo thang! No heels? Any shoes will do just fine. Take a moment to reflect on how you YOU grieve. We all do it differently.Do what works best for you. Not what work for Oprah or Miley Cyrus or what Cosmo magazine tells you to do. Do what works for YOU. Once it passes, you are now stronger and wiser. You can get through anything.