Trapped in Transition?

Written By: Erin Bach

Last year, a lot changed in my life. I left my teaching job, got married, moved across the country, bought a house, and finished my first year of grad school. This year I’ve mostly been trying to answer the question: now what?

Though these were all positive changes, they upset my planned, predictable existence. As someone who likes to control things (I’ll admit it), this was a huge act of surrender for me, and living in a whirlwind of not knowing what’s next is exhausting.


So, what do we do when we’re in transition? Whether it’s from one stage of life to another (hello graduation season), one job to another, one relationship to another, we need to find a way to feel free and empowered instead of stuck in a swamp of uncertainty.

Here are three tips for taking your power back during times of transition.

#1 Take Action

I know, I know, easier said than done, right? But I’m not talking about major actions here. I’m talking about daily decisions that are aligned with what you want.

Maybe you can’t control when you’ll find the perfect apartment, but you can decide to take that box of old clothes to a donation center. Maybe you can’t control certain stress factors, but you can decide to put on your sneakers and go for a walk. The key is to act!


Taking action on small, manageable, decisions that you make from your gut (not your over-worried brain), will help you ground yourself and remind you that you have more control than you think. Here’s to feeling powerful and productive!

#2 Adopt an Attitude of Gratitude

Sure, things might feel a little less than ideal right now, but don’t let that lower your vibration. What we think about becomes our reality. If we think about how broke we are all the time, we’re going to feel broke. If we think about how awesome we are all the time, we’re going to feel awesome (or maybe a little bit narcissistic, but that’s not the point).

No matter what transition you’re going through, filling your head with what’s good in your life will help you feel  more abundant and grateful.


Notice how cozy your bed is in the morning and the way the light hits the walls. Notice the tree that’s blooming outside your window or the wildflowers you see on your way to work. Notice that your best friend texted you just to say hi. Just notice. I promise, there is so much goodness and beauty already around you.

#3 Record and Reflect

Sometimes we feel like we’re stuck when actually we’ve been moving the whole time. Maybe we’ve only been inching along, but movement is movement, and it’s important that we recognize that.

Make it a practice to check in with yourself every so often and reflect on the progress you’ve made (each new moon would be the perfect time for this!). Honor your goals and desires, reflect on what you did to support those, and give yourself a hug for showing up for yourself and the life you want to live.

Then keep going. Before you know it, this transition will be a thing of the past!