Be the Best Wedding Guest

Written By: Lacy Bundy


You feel it, right? The weather is getting warmer, the days are getting longer and your mailboxes are drowning in wedding RSVPs.

Yes, wedding season is in full swing!


Like many things in adulthood, wedding season can be expensive! It means dishing out for gifts, booking possible travel and attending all the events surrounding the big day (like 5 straight weekends of bachelorette party madness)! But it also means you get to be surrounded by love, friends and get to share in the most important day of your loved one’s lives. Awe the feels!


In the whirlwind of all that wedding season, it’s easy to get caught up and forget the importance of modern wedding guest etiquette. Here is a little pre-wedding refresher, so you can show up and be the fabulous wedding guest I know you are.

1. Put the Tequila Shots Down

Yes, weddings are one big party and celebration, but don’t be the girl who gets sloppy drunk at someone’s wedding! Not a cute look. Yes, you can enjoy that open bar (don’t skip on the tip) and toast with champagne, but leave the shots and heavy drinking for the bachelorette party, so you don’t humiliate yourself on your friend’s big day. This is not, I repeat, NOT a college kegger, please act accordingly.


2. RSVPs Are Important

This goes without saying, but send your RSVP back ASAP. The bride and groom rely on them to plan their day. On that note, unless the RSVP explicitly states you and a guest, the bride and groom only invited you, so don’t pencil in that cute guy you met last week. And do not call the bride and ask if you can bring someone! How Awkward! Plus, being a hot single at a wedding is NOT the nightmare it’s made out to be and you’ll probably have a fun time dancing with the groom’s hot cousin. Enjoy and embrace the single life!


3. Dress Appropriately

We all know the golden rule: don’t wear white or ivory! And you are not the exception to the rule! In fact, don’t try to upstage the bride in any way by wearing anything that is over the top sexy, tight or suggestive. Yes, I love a girl who shows off her body and embraces all her curves, but save that clothing for a ladies night, not a wedding. Always dress for the venue and follow the instructions from the bride and groom.


4. Gifts, Gifts, Gifts

Yes, even if you’ve already bought an engagement gift, shower gift and bachelorette gift, you are still expected to give a wedding gift to the bride and groom. At this point, you may be running low on funds, so be one of the first to buy them something on their registry so you can find something in your budget. And stick to the registry, girl! They created it for a reason, with the items they need, so don’t buy them something they didn’t ask for. Waited till the last minute to get a gift and now only uber expensive registry gifts are left? Gift cards and monetary gifts are acceptable as well.


5. Put That Phone Away

In today’s age of social media, you may be tempted to take out your phone and document your friend’s big day. Don’t! In fact, turn your phone off completely. Not only is a ringing phone in a ceremony incredibly rude, the couple paid good money for a photographer and videographer, so while sweet, they don’t need you playing paparazzi.  If you do happen to get a snap of the bride and groom, keep it offline! Let the happy couple be the first to post about their big day, not you.


So go forth and conquer wedding season like the fabulous babe you are!