Monday July 10th, 2017
We're on our phones all the time, it's not a secret. And no matter what our reason is for being on them, it's more than likely not a good one.
Sometimes it's hard to imagine doing anything without our phones considering the many resources it has to offer. Most people start and end the day with their cellular devices. Using it as an alarm, or just a time-killer to help us occupy our minds before bed.
Our quench to tap and scroll has developed beyond the resources. Whether you're playing games or scrolling through social media, these digital fillers are giving us a sense of fulfillment that we often don't experience in the real world. But it seems our constant check into this digital world, is taking us away from our real one.
Take a moment, to ask yourself these questions:
- How many times a day am I looking at my phone?
- When I'm looking at my phone what am I thinking about?
- Are the thoughts running through my head positive or negative to my well being?
If you've realized the amount of times you look at your phone is beyond 10 a day, it may be time to set limits. I have to admit, my phone has become an important factor in my life, it's how I run my business and how I share my artwork. And although going cold-turkey sounds like the greatest plan ever, it's not entirely idealistic for me.
To get some control over my scroll, I set a limit of posting/viewing at 3 times a day. Once In the morning, afternoon and evening. I allow myself 10 minutes per session, and without any if's, and's or but's, I make sure I have a plan for my next session, so I know what I have to get done. This way, it's easier to know that I can completely disconnect from the digital world so I can connect with the real people around me, living completely and fully in every moment, while submerging myself in whatever environment I'm in.
Majority of the time spent on my phone is scrolling through Instagram to update my pages, and see what other artists are sharing throughout my feed. It's quite inspirational, but there are moments when those inspirational thoughts wash away and the comparison game comes into play. This is when we see images that we like and begin to compare ourselves or our wellbeing to things we see and/or want. It's a sticky situation that can pile negative thoughts into our minds, causing clutter in our thought process, because we begin to believe that what we're seeing is what we need, and what we have isn't good enough.
This cycle of negative thoughts circling through your mind 3-10 times a day can actually have a serious effect on your health. From depression to anxiety, it can really take a toll on how we develop and live our everyday lives as human beings.
So as soon as these thoughts come into play, pause. Don't judge them, but listen to them. Pay attention to how these thoughts react throughout your body. Whether it makes you feel anxious, mad or even jealous. It's ok. The most important thing here is to recognize how this makes you feel. After careful recognition, switch around your thoughts. Turn the - into a + and you'll begin to see things differently. No, it's not going to happen over night, but as time goes on, you'll feel differently about what you see. It can be tough not to compare ourselves to others, but it's the idea that we must be thankful for who we are and utilize what we have in order to find our true selves. Because in the real world, no matter how much we replicate one another, only YOU can be you.
So the next time you scroll through your phone, take a moment to remember these vital words:
You are human, you are love, you are capable of being who you are destined to be, and that is individual from everyone and everything. Your journey is not the same as anyone else's. You must love yourself first, with mutual love and no hatred for others. Respecting everyone else's journey, because it is different from yours. You will find love in everything you do, because love is the truth of who you truly are.