Julia - Defining her own beauty

Aug 17, 2022
Written by
Marilyn D.
Photographed by
KARLO GOMEZ
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uring our trip to Denver, Colorado, we had the pleasure of working with some amazing women! One of them had never done a photoshoot before, but was ready to write that chapter in her life. Our newest SundayGirl, Julia did beyond amazing on her first photoshoot EVER! Not only did her personality inspire us, but her beauty and journey to loving herself did as well!

Mind you, all our SundayGirl photoshoots are little to No-Makeup. Julia is completely bare faced during this shoot! It is truly BEAUTIFUL to so see her bask in her natural beauty!

Here is what Julia had to say during our interview with her.

What is your ethnicity? 

White 

What is your age?

24

How have you struggled in the past to appreciate or love your body and how have you overcome that struggle? 

Absolutely, as women, our bodies are sexualized, compared and judged from the day we enter this world. People are constantly commenting on how we look, comparing us to other women, and it only worsens as our bodies grow and change. I am still working on overcoming this trauma. Something I try to remember, is in the end, no one else's opinion of you matters. Life is too damn short to worry about things like that. 

How have you struggled loving your breasts? 

Women are judged for big chests, small chests, and everything in between. I've had a bigger chest since middle school, which put a target on me when it came to being sexualized. I could not wear the same shirts as smaller friends because I would have too much cleavage showing. From a young age we are taught that our bodies are distractions to not just the boys in the class, but teachers and staff as well. A 13 year girl should not have to worry about her own teacher sexualizing her. The reality of our society is: unfortunately, it is not the men who have to change how they look at us, but us women who have to change how we look.

Did you like them before? 

I never loved them and I never hated them, I mostly felt shame and the need to hide them. I felt like it was my fault for having them and that is why I (and many other ladies) were treated differently by the people around us. I hated that they were such a topic of discussion in my life, because they are just body-parts. They do not define me, yet, that is how it felt.

"As I grew older, I learned to appreciate those stretch marks on my skin. They show my growth, and what I’ve endured in life so far. "
"To cover up my stretch marks is to give into those who influenced our own brains into thinking they were ugly."

How do you feel about your stretch marks on your breast and butt?

I grew up being taught to cover up stretch marks at all costs, and that they are a sign of imperfection, that makes a woman less beautiful. As I grew, I learned to appreciate those marks on my skin. They show my growth, and what I’ve endured in life so far. To cover them up is to give into those who influenced our own brains into thinking they were ugly.

What do you love most about your body now? 

One of my favorite pieces of advice is that: our bodies are the greatest instrument we’ll ever own, and to treat them kindly. I try to view my body as a whole, with that lens. My body is not here to please others, it is here as a tool for me to live this life and I love that it has gotten me this far.

 How was it shooting for the first time? 

I was very scared. Showing myself so vulnerable means attracting some unwanted attention from creeps and judgemental people. I had to work through those thoughts and realize that this shoot was for me and any other woman or girl who also cares too much about what other people think. 

How was it shooting with no makeup and topless? 

I am not much of a makeup person, so no makeup just kept me feeling comfortable and more like myself.

The topless photos were intimidating, and to be fully honest, I would have felt a lot more comfortable with a female photographer, especially for those shots. Luckily, the more we took, the more comfortable I felt, and I love how they ended up turning out. 

"Give your body more credit. It is not here to please the people around us."

What message do you have for other women who struggle to appreciate and love their bodies?

Give your body more credit. It is not here to please the people around us, it is here for living and surviving. So, treat it with kindness. 

Don’t be so hard on yourself, you are only human (and so is everyone else). 

Don’t believe everything you see on social media, people will do anything to better fit into the small box that is society’s beauty standards. Distinct features like stretch marks, rolls, moles, and body hair  just make you more interesting to put on a canvas. They are beauty in its rawest form, don’t be afraid to show them off. 

Lastly, worry less about anyone else's view of you. We are often our hardest critics, so it is vital to focus on loving yourself and drowning out the negative noise.

To see more of Julia make sure to follow her on IG: @julia_monaco