How to start Loving yourself authentically

Aug 21, 2020
Written by
AMBER SABOURIN
Photographed by
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ave you ever said you were going to do something but didn’t follow through, brushed it off, and pretended like it never happened? Then it happens again… and again… until, before you know it, you're making promises that aren't true and failing to follow through on what you said you would do.

And then when you tell someone something about yourself or what you're going to do, and they just give you that look like, 'Yeah, right, I’ve heard you say that a hundred times, and I still haven’t seen it happen,' you wonder why they don’t trust you. It doesn’t feel like you’ve done anything wrong. At that point, most of us just think, 'Forget it... I’m not even going to try to fix this mess.'

I'm just going to leave this here, walk away, and pretend like it never existed... But let me tell you, messes don’t clean themselves up. There’s something to be accountable for here. You didn’t do what you said you would do. Now the impact is that no one believes a word you say until they see it happen. The only way people will believe in you is when you actually become your word! Whether it's speaking up when something bothers you, losing that weight, saving that money, or embracing the skin you’re in—whatever it is, sister, you can become your word. Stick with me as we dive even deeper.

Sometimes, when you don’t follow through on what you said you would do, it can lead to that little voice in your head telling you to just move on and forget about it. This is where many of us get stuck and stop pursuing what truly matters to us—the things that fill up our self-love cup. Most importantly, it prevents us from knowing ourselves as our word. When you don’t know yourself as your word, you find yourself stuck in many areas of your life, especially in the self-love department. When you’re not your word, you’re typically not doing the things you know you should be doing to continuously fill up your cup.

But let's shift our focus to what really matters here: discovering how to honor your word.

Imagine yourself as your word. Picture yourself as someone who does what they say they will do, follows through on what they know they should do and by when it should be done, and fulfills expectations—even the small ones like showering and taking care of yourself. What would be available to you? What would your world look like if you were always your word, someone known for keeping their promises?

Now, take it a step further. Think about those thoughts—the “I wish I could but I can’t” thoughts, those secret dreams you wouldn’t dare speak of but would transform your life if you were your word even with them. Imagine a world where you honor your word in relation to those thoughts. What would that open up for you?

The secret to living a powerful life, loving the skin you’re in, and being proud of who you are, inside and out, starts with being your word in everything you do. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to, but when you want something, you tend to put your word on it, and that’s where it all begins.

Consider the relationships that would open up to you by being your word. Think about what your relationship with yourself would look like if you honored your word and did the things you know you should do for yourself. This is the side of the table you need to sit at if you want to transform into someone known for being their word. You have to stay within what’s possible for you by becoming someone who is known as their word.

Lastly, don’t make yourself wrong along the way. That will only pull you backward. You’re on a path of discovery; you’re going to mess up and make mistakes. But these are important parts of discovering what it’s like to be someone known for their word. Over time, you’ll find that being someone known for their word is much more peaceful than not being so. It just takes time, perseverance, and patience.

In what area(s) have you decided to become someone known for their word? I’d love to hear about your journey! You can find me on Instagram @ambersabourin.

Love Always,
Amberly Sabourin 

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