She Chose Herself — And Found Love for Her Body and Music

Romy Dya Opens Up About Her Self-Love Journey and Upcoming Song Release

At 33, Romy Dya is a mom of two, an artist, songwriter, producer, and entrepreneur from the Netherlands. Her journey toward self-love has been long and winding, filled with struggles, revelations, and ultimately, empowerment.

"I’ve always struggled with loving myself. People around me always told me I was fat and I used to be so ashamed of myself. I was never the skinniest girl and I always had wide hips and big thighs… after my two pregnancies I got stretch marks, more cellulite, and loose skin around my stomach."

Facing the Mirror and the Music Scene

Romy’s earliest memories of body insecurity were intertwined with constant judgment—from others and herself. In the music scene, where appearance and talent are constantly tested, she felt the pressure deeply.

"I couldn’t even look in the mirror because I really ‘hated’ the way my body looked, especially my stomach. I always thought people would look at me and say hurtful things… in the music scene, you constantly have to prove yourself."

Even at her skinniest, after losing a lot of weight a few years ago, happiness didn’t come. Attention and compliments couldn’t fill the void—Romy realized that true happiness had to start from within.

"I began to do some soul searching and realized that happiness starts from within. I had to face traumatic experiences from the past and process everything and forgive myself."

Choosing Herself and Following Her Heart

The turning point came in 2018, after ending a 12-year relationship. She chose herself over staying in a partnership that no longer served her, booking a last-minute flight to Los Angeles to pursue her music.

"Going to LA was the best choice I’ve ever made in my life, because that’s when I finally started to love myself cause I chose me."

Romy faced challenges and setbacks, including rock-bottom moments over the next two years. Yet, she learned to meditate, trust her intuition, and practice self-kindness. Slowly, she became her own best friend.

"Because since I looked in front of the mirror and started telling myself: ‘you’re strong, you’re beautiful and you got this’ my life started to change in a good way."

Embracing Body Positivity and Art

Romy has learned to truly honor and celebrate her body.

"I now see my stretch marks and cellulite as art, a testament to my journey rather than flaws to hide. Loving myself has nothing to do with changing my body—it’s about accepting and celebrating who I am, exactly as I am."

Her approach is rooted in self-love and authenticity, not approval or validation from anyone else. Romy’s message is clear: embracing your natural body is empowering, and self-confidence comes from within.

Finding Music and Self-Love

Alongside embracing her body, Romy’s music has been a lifeline. She first shared a song for OBARE, formerly known as SMV, back in 2020, and now she’s releasing her new single on August 29, 2025, celebrating her journey of self-love and empowerment.

Here's another sneak peek of her new song.

Romy’s story proves that choosing yourself—emotionally, physically, and creatively—can transform your life. She continues to inspire women to embrace themselves fully and follow their passions unapologetically.

"Here is a beautiful song Romy wrote for OBARE, formerly known as SMV, back in 2020.

Connect With Romy Dya

• Instagram: @romydya
• Twitter: @romydya
• Facebook: Romy Dya Music
• Spotify: Listen Here