From Former Model to Authentic Self: Meet Ryley Gordon

Ryley Gordon’s journey isn’t just about transformation — it’s about rediscovering what true beauty really means, starting with the simple act of removing her makeup for our shoot.

As a former fashion model, she spent years chasing an industry standard that often left her feeling ‘not enough.’ She was told she was too short, needed to lose weight, or that her look was ‘too commercial.’ The pressure to fit in, combined with endless criticism, made her self-conscious and disconnected from her worth.

But Ryley’s story didn’t end there.

Growing up in Southern California, she fell in love with surfing, plant-based living, and art. She has painted her whole life, drawing inspiration from the beauty of the human body. She found empowerment in nature, with animals, and through movement — surfing, hiking, yoga, and dance. Slowly, she began to shift her mindset from what her body looked like to what her body could do.

“I used to plan my week around clean eating and workouts, obsessed with looking a certain way,” she admits. But stepping away from the industry gave her freedom. She discovered intuitive eating, stopped checking the scale, and started moving her body simply to feel good.

Now, Ryley embraces her authentic self as a Bare Model — going bare, no makeup, no filters, just unfiltered beauty. Her message is simple but powerful:

“Don’t be so hard on yourself — you are doing great.”

Through daily affirmations, she reminds herself:

• I am beautiful.
• My body is meant to change.
• My confidence shines through stronger than my dress size.

Ryley also knows she’s not alone. Women everywhere are pressured by social media edits, diet culture, plastic surgery ads, and anti-aging products — all of which condition us to believe we’re not enough. But she believes vulnerability and honesty can break that cycle.

“Most of what you see online is curated. Even fitness influencers show only their best angles. Remember: we all change, evolve, and experience highs and lows. Don’t be too hard on yourself — you’re doing great.”

Today, Ryley stands as a symbol of women’s empowerment, body acceptance, and natural beauty. By sharing her truth, she’s inspiring other women to embrace what makes them unique, practice self-love, and rewrite the definition of beauty.

Find Ryley on Instagram @ryleygordon.

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10 Things to Do Instead of Being on Your Phone — Mindful Tips for Women to Reconnect Offline

Step Away from the Screen and Back Into Yourself

We’ve all opened our phones for “just a minute,” only to look up hours later, lost in the endless scroll. But here’s the truth — the most beautiful moments in life happen when we put the screen down and look up.

Unplugging isn’t about rejecting technology; it’s about reclaiming your time and energy. It’s remembering that joy, and inspiration are found in your world, not just your feed.

Here are 10 things to do instead of being on your phone — real grounding, and soul-nourishing ways to reconnect with yourself and the world around you.

1. Go for a Walk Without Music or Podcasts

Give your mind a break from constant stimulation. Walk without earbuds. Listen to your own thoughts. Feel the air, the rhythm of your steps, and the subtle details around you — the color of the sky, the sound of leaves, your own breath. This is mindfulness in motion.

2. Start a Mini Garden

Whether it’s basil on your kitchen windowsill or a row of wildflowers in your backyard, growing something connects you to the Earth — and to patience. Watching new life sprout is a quiet reminder that growth takes time, care, and love.

3. Read Something That Nourishes You

Trade screen light for sunlight and pages. Pick up a novel, a memoir, or poetry that feeds your mind. Reading slows you down, calms your nervous system, and reconnects you to curiosity — something scrolling can never replicate.

4. Move Your Body with Intention

Stretch. Dance. Do yoga. Move not just to burn calories, but to celebrate your body. Let movement be your reminder that your body is alive, powerful, and worth honoring in every form.

5. Journal to Hear Yourself Again

Write your thoughts down without editing them. Your journal isn’t for perfection — it’s for truth. Sometimes your own handwriting has the answers your phone never will. Write what hurts, what feels good, what you’re grateful for. You’ll see yourself more clearly.

6. Host a No-Phone Dinner with Friends

Invite your friends over for a slow dinner. No phones, no filters — just food, laughter, and honest conversation. These are the real moments that feed the soul and strengthen connection. Presence tastes better than any notification.

7. Visit a Museum or Local Gallery

Step into creativity. Let art remind you how many ways beauty can exist. Seeing the world through another person’s imagination can spark your own — and reawaken that part of you that’s been scrolling instead of dreaming.

8. Watch the Sunset (and Actually Watch It)

Put your phone away and let yourself witness something timeless. The sky’s quiet shift from gold to violet can ground you faster than any meditation app. It’s a reminder that endings can be breathtaking too.

9. Try a New Creative Hobby

Paint. Take photos. Sculpt. Knit. Create something imperfect and beautiful. Art isn’t about skill — it’s about expression. When you make something with your hands, you reconnect with your power to bring ideas to life.

10. Do Absolutely Nothing

Yes, nothing. Sit. Breathe. Stare at the ceiling or out the window. Let boredom stretch. That quiet stillness — the one you often try to fill with scrolling — is where creativity and calm are born. Give yourself the gift of unhurried time.

Why Unplugging Matters

Every moment spent offline is a return to yourself. You don’t need to abandon your phone — just choose when to step away. Life is happening here, in the warmth of sunlight, the sound of laughter, the rhythm of your breath.

When you unplug, you remember that you’re already whole — no filter required.

So the next time your thumb instinctively reaches for your phone, pause. Take a deep breath. Ask yourself: What can I do right now that feeds my soul instead of my screen?

Because real beauty, connection, and joy aren’t on your phone — they’re already in your hands.

Sharon’s Story: From Self-Loathing to Self-Love

(Editorial originally published on December 16, 2021)

I recently had the privilege of photographing Sharon, a Bare Model, whose journey toward self-love reflects struggles many women face. During our time together, she shared her story—the pressures, the pain, and the freedom she discovered in redefining beauty for herself.

Confronting Beauty Standards

‍For years, Sharon battled rigid beauty ideals—standards dictating the “perfect” size and shape. The relentless pressure to conform left her questioning her worth. “For years, I felt like my body was the enemy,” she shared.

The Meaning of Stretch Marks

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Our makeup-free photoshoot was more than capturing images—it was about seeing beauty from a new perspective. For Sharon, stretch marks once stirred pain and self-doubt. She asked herself: Why do they exist? The answer became a powerful realization—imperfections are part of what makes us unique.

Rewriting the Inner Dialogue

‍Sharon also faced the quiet but destructive force of negative self-talk. Instead of criticism, she now practices kindness.

“I started talking to myself the way I’d talk to a friend—with love.”

This simple yet profound shift changed everything.

A Newfound Gratitude

‍Today, Sharon carries deep gratitude for her body and all it has carried her through. The self-loathing is gone, replaced by appreciation and acceptance.

A Story of Resilience and Natural Beauty

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My session with Sharon wasn’t just about photographs—it was about capturing her strength, vulnerability, and natural beauty that first caught my attention. Her journey inspires many women to embrace their natural features. I hope her images become an invitation for even more women to celebrate their own natural beauty.

"Natural beauty begins the moment you start appreciating being yourself."

Find Sharon on Instagram: @sharontheclaw.

From Shame to Song: How Bailey Rushlow Found Her Voice and Her Confidence

(Editorial originally published on July 26 2023)

An inspiring story of self-discovery and body acceptance.

Meet Bailey Rushlow, a 27-year-old Nashville singer-songwriter with a rich heritage of Scottish, Greek, French, and Cherokee roots. Bailey’s journey hasn’t just been about music—It’s been about overcoming years of self-doubt, embracing her true self, and inspiring those around her to do the same.

Early Struggles with Body Image

At just 14, Bailey felt the pressure of societal beauty standards. Struggling to fit into her swimsuit for swim-team practice, she began questioning her body—its curves, softness, and stretch marks. Compounded by religious conditioning, Bailey believed that full self-acceptance was abnormal.

Her story reflects a deeply personal journey many women share before finding their confidence—a journey of vulnerability before finding strength.

The Path to Self-Appreciation

A decade of growth taught Bailey to celebrate her body, her curly hair, and her menstrual cycle. She learned that rejecting unrealistic beauty ideals was the key to living freely.

For her, music became more than a career—it became a form of empowerment.

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Her song "(Simply) The Best" symbolizes her journey. Singing it is Bailey’s personal affirmation—her declaration of becoming the best version of herself. Her art carries a message of hope and self-love.

Bailey’s Message to Others

Bailey encourages women to:

1. Embrace Your Unique Perspective — Validation starts from within.
2. Prioritize Your Happiness — Authentic living brings true fulfillment.
3. Embrace Your Cosmic Blueprint — Reject societal pressures and celebrate your individuality.

Looking Ahead: Creativity and Community

Bailey dreams of a life filled with connection and creative expression:

• A cozy cottage with a lush garden
• Continuing her music career
• Hosting her podcast, The Cosmic Nomad
• Raising children who embody self-love and acceptance

Discovering OBARE and Her Authentic Self

In 2019, Bailey found OBARE (formerly SundayMorningView), a platform celebrating real, unfiltered beauty. Inspired by its mission, Bailey embraced her body without filters or makeup, stepping into authenticity both on and off the stage.

Her journey is a testament to the power of self-love, self-expression, and healing. Bailey’s story is a reminder that our voices matter, our experiences matter, and our authenticity matters.

Bailey reflects:
“Who we were as children is who we still are—but often deeply buried under layers of conditioning, trauma, responsibilities, and so much more. Healing starts with connecting to your younger self.”

Bailey Rushlow’s journey is more than a personal transformation—it’s an anthem for anyone seeking confidence, body acceptance, and the courage to go bare.

(Here is a video that is inspirational. Bailey Rushlow reflects on healing and self-discovery: “Who we were as children is who we still are—but often deeply buried under layers of conditioning, trauma, responsibilities, and so much more.” Through this journey, she encourages taking time to connect with your younger self. This practice brings deep healing and creates a lasting impact on our lives. Text by Bailey Rushlow, adapted from her words on Instagram (@baileynrushlow).)

Find Bailey on Instagram: @baileynrushlow.

Britney Lee: Finding Confidence in Her Curves

(Editorial originally published on January 24, 2021)

When Bare Model Britney Lee first stepped in front of Karlo’s camera for OBARE, she carried something many women know all too well—body image struggles and self-doubt. For years, her tummy rolls felt like a silent weight she had to carry, something she wanted to hide, even in the smallest ways.

The Challenge of Embracing Tummy Rolls

So, when Karlo gently asked her to sit naturally—without sucking in or angling to flatten her stomach—Britney froze inside. Could she really let the world see her like this? What felt like such a small request on the outside shook her on the inside. Because those little rolls weren’t “little” to her. They represented every insecurity she had replayed in her head for years.

But that moment became a turning point.

Redefining Beauty by Going Bare

Through OBARE’s Going Bare mission, Britney began to see what she never allowed herself to before: that her natural body was not something to fix, but something to celebrate. That her curves, her tummy rolls, and even the cellulite she once saw as “flaws” were in fact proof of her beauty, her womanhood, and her authenticity.

“I'm beginning to truly understand that it’s perfectly normal to have tummy rolls, whether they’re small or large,”

Britney shared.

“Cellulite and curves are not flaws but unique features that make you, you.”

(Britney’s BTS moment: proving that cellulite isn’t a flaw—it’s just her butt’s natural sparkle.)

Why We Love Britney Lee

For the first time, she wasn’t hiding. She wasn’t edited. She wasn’t pretending. She was bare, unfiltered, and makeup-free. And in that rawness, she found power.

Britney’s story is more than just photos on a page—it’s about courage. The courage to step out from under the expectations of traditional magazines, filters, and flawless illusions. The courage to inspire other women who are still fighting their own battles in front of the mirror.

And that’s why we love Britney Lee, a true representation of the Obare mission of Going Bare—celebrating natural beauty and unfiltered confidence. Because every roll, every curve, every sparkle of cellulite isn’t just her body—it’s her story. A story that reminds us all that being bare is being beautiful.

Find Britney on Instagram: @babybrit.

How I Learned to Love My Body: Embracing Every Inch with Pride

(Editorial originally published on March 9 2020)

The Body I’ve Always Loved

For as long as I can remember, I’ve cherished certain features—my perfectly shaped eyebrows, glowing eyes, and smile. Yet, like many of us, I’ve also struggled with insecurities: acne, saggy boobs, thick thighs, a pouched stomach, and “man hands.”

Everything shifted about a year ago. I realized I am the author of my body. I choose every day how I look, head to toe. And here’s the revelation: I can love my body exactly as it is, even while making changes I desire.

Loving My Body, Imperfections and All

Today, I embrace my body fully, at my heaviest weight, with pride:

• Acne: A reminder of my IUD, regulating my period.
• Curves: Defining my unique figure.
• Saggy boobs: Perfect because I don’t wear a bra.
• Thick thighs & calves: Built from childhood dancing and teen soccer.
• Pouched stomach: Symbol of my love for food—unashamed.
• Man hands: A tribute to my mother’s strength and resilience.

Every inch tells a story. Your body is a canvas, and every day you can either preserve it or add to it—cover lines, enhance curves, and change perspectives.

You Are the Artist of Your Body

Love it. Nurture it. Talk to it. Feed it. Feel it. Your body protects your mind and soul—treat it as the masterpiece it is. Self-expression flows through your body:

• Some days, sweats, UGGs, no makeup, hair up.
• Other days, polished, runway-ready, hair and makeup on point.
• Some days, a mix of casual and chic.

No matter the outfit, carry yourself with pride, love, and gratitude.

Confidence in Vulnerability

The ultimate moment of self-love? Naked in front of a partner. This is when I feel most proud: every inch of me authored, sexy, and confident. Loving yourself is magnetic—when you know your worth, it radiates to the world.

Glow Through Self-Love

Self-love isn’t just a feeling; it’s a way of walking through life. When you fully embrace your body, you glow. Every choice, every outfit, every movement becomes an expression of your pride and authenticity.

Let’s inspire each other to embrace every inch of ourselves.

@ambersabourin.

All Vulvas Are Normal: Embrace Your Labia and Pubic Hair

Growing Up With Vulva Insecurity

When I was 12, I used to avoid wearing tight jeans and gym shorts because you could visibly see my vulva, and I was told that was shameful.

At 14, I wanted a labiaplasty to shorten my labia as I thought it was abnormal and unattractive because it stuck out.

When I was 18, a partner mentioned how weird it is that my labia hangs out.

At 19, the adult entertainment industry convinced me that pubic hair wasn’t attractive, so I shaved mine and was left with angry red bumps across my vulva.

Growing up, I had only ever seen a handful of vulvas represented in the media, and they were always perfectly symmetrical, hairless, bump-free, neat, and small. Not an accurate representation of what vulvas can look like.

Feeling Insecure

Throughout my teen years and into my early 20s, I felt embarrassed and insecure about my vulva.

• I would attempt to tuck my inner labia in whenever I was about to be intimate.
• Feeling insecure about our vulvas is something many of us can relate to.

The Truth About Vulvas

But I’m here to remind you: all vulvas are normal!

Each vulva looks different, and it’s perfectly normal if you have:

• A dangly labia
• Puffy labia
• Tucked-in labia
• Inner labia sticking out past outer labia
• Asymmetry or a darker shade in some areas
• A prominent clitoral hood

Vulvas Come in Different Shapes and Sizes

• Colors and sizes vary widely
• Pubic hair comes in different textures, lengths, and patterns

Your vulva isn’t ugly. You deserve to embrace it because all vulvas are unique, different, worthy, and normal.

For more inspiration from Bella Davis, follow her on Instagram: @BellaDavis

Dimples, Stretch Marks, and Softness Are Not Imperfections

Dimples lace my thighs. Stretch marks gather on my hips and a layer of fat covers my stomach, arms, and back.
These things aren't imperfections. These photos don't showcase my flaws. Despite what societal beauty standards want you to think, they display features of a human body.

They showcase things we all have. Normal, human features. Things that make us, us.

Growing at Every Stage of Your Journey

You need to understand that your softness isn't shameful, and that the only opinion of your body that truly matters is your own. You don't need to hide anymore—you've done enough of that for one lifetime. This doesn’t mean neglecting your body; caring for yourself through healthy foods, regular exercise, and spending time in nature is an important way to honor and love it.

Taking Care of Your Body Matters

Taking care of your body is an act of love. Moving it, exercising it, and nourishing it with wholesome food—it’s about giving yourself strength, and energy. Treating your body well reinforces the respect and gratitude it deserves.

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Finding Joy in Your Body

You need to find the joy in your body. Explore it. Admire it. Marvel at every part of her.
Remind yourself of all it allows you to do:

• Dance
• Love
• Exercise
• Move
• Be loved
• Orgasm
• Touch
• Feel
• Create
• Eat

Your Body Wants to Be Your Friend

Slowly but surely, you'll begin to see that your body is tired of being belittled by you. Instead, do things that encourage a healthy relationship between you and your body. Take her for a walk, jog, or run; try a new sport, do yoga, take dance classes—anything that involves you and your body actively moving. Touching your body and admiring her is one thing, but actively moving her is another.

From there, you'll realize that your body actually wants to be your friend. It aches to welcome you home, and by this point your only regret will be: why didn't I befriend it earlier?

I love you, always.

For more inspiration from Bella Davis, follow her on Instagram: @BellaDavis

Learning to Be Alone: The Surprising Power of Solitude for Self-Discovery

Why Being Alone Is Hard—but Transformative

Being alone can feel especially hard when loneliness hits, but these moments can become a magical sanctuary of self-awareness and acceptance. Over time, embracing solitude fosters self-love—the foundation for a life that feels truly rich and vibrant.

It’s not easy. The process is vulnerable and uncomfortable, often bringing intense emotional release. Yet, embracing solitude is, in my experience, one of the most tangible ways to cultivate self-love.

My First Steps: Moving Across the Country

My journey started when I moved from a small California suburb to a suburb of Philadelphia for college. I didn’t know anyone, and my familiar privacy vanished when I shared a room with six other girls.

Being alone initially brought anxiety about what others thought. I coped by keeping my headphones in and staying busy, but eventually, I realized I didn’t actually know—or care—what others thought. Running errands and taking walks alone became manageable. The real challenge? Exploring new experiences on my own.

Trying New Experiences Solo

I began attending activities that none of my friends were interested in:

• Clubs and raves
• Night art markets
• Tango classes and surfing lessons
• Restaurants, both fancy and casual

Initially, my anxiety returned, but the more I challenged myself, the more I examined my fears. The shift wasn’t about other people’s opinions—it was about understanding the real source of my fear.

Turning Fear into a Companion

Over time, I personified my fear and anxiety as a part of myself I could converse with. Surprisingly, it wasn’t so bad. My fear was simply trying to protect me from rejection.

By accepting this part of myself, I lifted a huge emotional burden. Giving myself the love I had always sought from others allowed me to form deeper, healthier relationships. I no longer relied on external validation, making every connection more meaningful.

Building a Stronger Relationship With Yourself

Human connection is vital, but the most important relationship begins with yourself. By learning to understand, accept, and love myself, I now approach life with greater introspection and self-awareness.

I am still a work in progress, discovering more about myself every day. But embracing solitude has allowed me to cultivate resilience, self-love, and a deeper understanding of my mind and heart.

The New Rules of Confidence: Angelina Love’s Journey to Self-Love and Fearless Beauty

(Editorial originally published on November 22, 2022)

Second-generation Mexican-American. Dreamer. Fighter. Bare Model. This is Angelina Love’s story.

Angelina Love moved across the country to Los Angeles with one bold goal — to pursue modeling full-time. As the oldest sibling with family responsibilities, her journey wasn’t easy. Growing up, she stood out: curvier than her peers, with hips, boobs, and curly hair — qualities that made her feel different in a world chasing beauty standards that rarely included her.

Her journey wasn’t smooth. Auditions, rejections, and societal expectations challenged her at every turn. But those challenges shaped her resilience. They taught her confidence. And most importantly, they taught her self-love.

“For a very long time, loving myself wasn’t easy. Being around the wrong people made it harder. Eventually, I learned I had to put myself first and be in love with myself before I could allow anyone else to. If I didn’t, I’d believe the negative things said by others. Thankfully, I’ve made it this far — and I plan to go even further.”

Today, Angelina stands as a signed model in LA, ready to release music, embracing her individuality, and inspiring women everywhere. As she says:

“Someone, somewhere has an opinion of me, but I've learned to love my body no matter the shape or size.”

From Self-Criticism to Self-Love

Q: How have you struggled to love your body?

“I've struggled my whole life. My body seems to go against every beauty standard. When stick-skinny was ideal, I was curvier. Now the ideal has shifted, and I’m still told I’m not perfect. What helped me was not letting beauty standards or media define my worth. We are all beautiful in our own ways — our flaws make us stand out.”

Q: How have you struggled loving your slender body?

“It’s been an interesting battle. Many think my body is perfect — but perfection is subjective. When I stopped listening to outside opinions, I found peace. Beauty standards are always changing — so why pay attention to them?”

Q: Do people think you don’t have self-love issues because of your physique?

“Insecurity isn’t reserved for certain people. Just like anyone else, I have mine. I’ve been told I’m too big, too short, too skinny. But I’ve learned to love my body no matter what. I control my own power — and nobody can take that away.”

(Angelina ditched the makeup, kept the glow, and reminded us that confidence is the real contour—oh, and her booty deserves its own spotlight.)

Her First Time Going Bare

For Angelina, shooting topless for the first time wasn’t just a photoshoot — it was a revelation.

“At first, I was nervous. I had never done anything like this in my modeling career. But facing that new territory made me more confident. I learned to pose with my body, not hide behind materials. I felt empowered knowing my story could inspire women worldwide facing similar struggles.”

Shooting without makeup gave her a deeper appreciation for imperfection.

“Seeing imperfections is powerful — in yourself and others. It was challenging at first because we are our own biggest critics. But I learned to love my imperfections — my dark circles, my curves, my body as it is.”

And topless? That brought a new kind of love.

“I’ve always been self-conscious about my breasts, but now I love their shape… cute little things.”

A Message for Women Everywhere

Angelina’s journey reminds us that self-love is not a destination — it’s a constant act of courage.

“Dear ladies, how can the world love your body if you don’t love it yourself? If you don’t give yourself the love first, no one else’s words will matter. Remember, there is only ONE you. That’s your character — something no one can ever take away. Love your body, embrace the process, and spread love. Nothing is worth closing your heart over, especially someone’s negative comment.”

Feeling Anxious? 5 Empowering Ways to Calm Your Mind Before Medication

Anxiety affects millions of people, often showing up as racing thoughts, chest tightness, or a constant sense of unease. While it can feel overwhelming, there are proven ways to manage anxiety naturally and regain control of your life. Here are five strategies you can start practicing today.

1. Practice Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness meditation is one of the most effective tools for reducing anxiety. By focusing on the present moment, you weaken the grip anxious thoughts have over your mind. Studies show that consistent meditation practice can decrease anxiety levels and improve overall mental well-being. Over time, it helps retrain your brain to respond differently to stress.

2. Exercise Regularly

Physical activity is a natural anxiety reliever. Exercise releases endorphins, the brain’s “feel-good” chemicals, which elevate mood and reduce stress. Even 20–30 minutes of moderate exercise, like brisk walking or yoga, can significantly lower anxiety levels. Exercise also promotes better sleep, which is crucial for managing stress.

3. Limit Caffeine and Alcohol

What you consume affects your anxiety. Caffeine, found in coffee, sodas, and energy drinks, can heighten anxiety symptoms by increasing heart rate and jitteriness. Alcohol may seem calming at first, but it disrupts sleep and can worsen anxiety over time. Being mindful of your intake can help maintain emotional balance.

4. Establish a Relaxing Sleep Routine

Sleep is essential for mental health. Inadequate rest makes it harder to cope with stress, while a consistent sleep schedule supports emotional recovery. Aim for 7–9 hours of restful sleep by creating a calming bedtime routine. Try warm baths, avoiding screens, and practicing relaxation techniques to ease your mind before bed.

5. Practice Deep Breathing Exercises

Anxiety often causes shallow, rapid breathing, which worsens feelings of panic. Deep breathing exercises, like diaphragmatic breathing—breathing deeply into your belly—activate your body’s relaxation response. This simple technique can calm the mind, lower heart rate, and reduce anxiety symptoms in moments of stress.

Take Back Control of Your Anxiety

Managing anxiety is a journey, and what works for one person may not work for another. By experimenting with these strategies—mindfulness, exercise, sleep routines, limiting stimulants, and deep breathing—you can reclaim your sense of balance and peace.

Remember to be gentle with yourself and give your mind and body time to adjust. With persistence and self-care, finding calm amidst life’s chaos is possible.

She Showed Up Unfiltered—and Completely Changed How We See Beauty

Back in 2018, I traveled to the vibrant streets of Miami — a city with sun-kissed beaches, rich culture, and stories waiting to be told. My mission was simple but powerful: capturing women in their most natural form.

One session stood apart. Gabriela, a stunning Latina woman, walked into the shoot without hesitation, without filters, without concealing anything. She showed up as herself — curves, cellulite, hip dips, and all. That moment was transformational. It wasn’t just a photoshoot — it was a beautiful celebration of who she is.

Gabriela’s Story: Courage Behind the Camera

Gabriela had faced years of self-doubt. Society told her her body wasn’t “perfect” — that cellulite should be hidden, hip dips corrected, curves sculpted away. But Gabriela decided to rewrite her story. That day in Miami, she didn’t just step in front of the Karlo's camera — she stepped into a new chapter of self-love.

(A little BTS from our shoot, during wardrobe check… making sure her curves had their own spotlight.)

"Her confidence radiated. It reminded me that beauty isn’t about perfection — it’s about balancing the most beautiful parts with the imperfect aspects of who we are. Gabriela’s cellulite? Part of her story. Her hip dips? They make her uniquely her. To me, these are some of the most beautiful aspects of a woman’s body. They create balance and harmonize her beauty, making her authentic and one of a kind. To me, that’s beautiful." — Karlo

Breaking Beauty Myths: Cellulite and Hip Dips

Nearly 90% of women have cellulite. Yet it remains one of society’s most stigmatized features. Hip dips, too, are often misunderstood — natural contours that many women feel pressured to change through intense workouts or surgery. Gabriela’s choice to embrace them was powerful. At Obare, we celebrate these differences. As you know, literally every body is meant to have its own shape, curves, and dips.

The Power of Authentic Photography

This session reaffirmed why I believe in capturing women authentically — with little to no makeup, no airbrushing or body manipulation through Photoshop. Just pure, authentic photography, which isn’t just about art. It’s about liberating the notion that everything has to be perfect in such an imperfect world. It’s about showing the world a truth we rarely see, let alone celebrate: the balance between imperfection and perfection, allowing us to witness something truly beautiful — a woman’s natural beauty and body.

Gabriela’s courage showed me something profound — real beauty lies in owning yourself. Cellulite and hip dips included!

Redefining Beauty Standards, One Story at a Time

Yeah, I know the above sounds cliché, but it’s true! Gabriela gave herself a stage of her own — the camera. Her story reminds us that transformation begins with courage, and that overcoming self-doubt starts with showing up unfiltered. Let’s stop hiding.

Let’s celebrate. Because the camera — and the world — is ready for authenticity.

The Ancient Math Behind Why We Can’t Stop Admiring Women’s Curves

There’s something undeniably captivating about the natural curves of a woman’s body, especially her butt. These curves are often celebrated for their beauty, but they may also be connected to something much deeper: a mathematical phenomenon found throughout nature—the Fibonacci Spiral.

The Fibonacci sequence creates the Golden Ratio, a pattern present in seashells, galaxies, and even the curvature of the human body. The way a woman’s hips and buttocks flow can be understood through this same harmonious design.

The Golden Ratio and the Female Form

The Fibonacci Spiral isn’t just a concept found in nature—it appears in the elegant curves of the human body. A woman’s back arches into her hips and flows into her butt, reflecting a fluid pattern similar to the spiral. Studies show that curves are perceived as more attractive when they follow symmetrical patterns, which may explain why the human eye finds these shapes so appealing.

This connection is especially visible in the hourglass figure, long celebrated as a symbol of fertility and health. The curvature of the hips and butt aligns with the flow of the Fibonacci Spiral, creating a shape that resonates with the same mathematical beauty seen in natural forms like seashells and spiral staircases.

Why We’re Naturally Drawn to Curves

Attraction to curves isn’t just cultural—it’s biological. Research indicates that humans are instinctively drawn to symmetry and proportions that mirror the Golden Ratio. This natural preference explains why the hourglass figure, with its curves and balance, has been admired across centuries and cultures.

The waist-to-hip ratio, echoing the Fibonacci Spiral, is a key factor in perceived attractiveness. The natural curves of the hips and butt represent balance and harmony, which the human brain instinctively recognizes and appreciates.

Embracing Your Natural Curves

Understanding the connection between the Fibonacci Spiral and a woman’s body offers a fresh perspective on beauty. Your curves aren’t just cultural—they are reflections of nature’s most elegant patterns.

For those struggling with body image, this connection is empowering. The curves you see in the mirror aren’t simply aesthetically pleasing—they’re mathematically harmonious, celebrating the natural alignment and beauty of your body.

Natural Beauty in Every Curve

The Golden Ratio reminds us that perfection isn’t about rigid standards—it’s about balance and harmony. Women’s bodies, with their variety and uniqueness, reflect this balance. From the roundness of the hips to the natural curve of the butt, each body tells a story of growth, elegance, and beauty.

By embracing your natural shapes, you celebrate physical beauty and connect with a universal pattern that has shaped the world for millennia. In a society that often promotes unrealistic beauty standards, it’s crucial to remember that natural bodies are already perfect by design—just like the Fibonacci Spiral.

The Gym Owner Who Teaches Self-Love: Stop Comparing, Start Celebrating Yourself

Navigating the path to self-love and body confidence can feel overwhelming—but for Apolonia Calleja, aka Apples, it’s a journey she lives every day. As a seasoned fitness trainer, gym owner, and Bare Model, Apples embodies what it means to truly embrace oneself. Her life reflects resilience—and, more importantly, shows how to find confidence in the face of challenges.

A Journey of Self-Love and Acceptance

For Apples, self-love didn’t come overnight. It developed through years of dedication—not only to fitness but to accepting her body as it naturally evolves. She explains:

“As I get older, I am learning to accept how my body changes. If you continue to love and pour into yourself, you will always accept what changes your body is making and embrace it.”

Her story is an inspiring reminder: self-love isn’t a destination—it’s a continuous journey. The more effort we put into ourselves, the more we learn to cherish the unique changes our bodies undergo.

Fitness as a Lifestyle, Not Just a Look

Fitness for Apples is more than a workout—it’s a way of life. As a trainer and gym owner at LIV FIT (@livfitgymfacility), she inspires others to see movement as a gift, not a chore.

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“Being able to stay active and just move my body is a blessing.”

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Her drive comes from a deeper purpose:

“I want to live a long life and be the best I can be for my son and future kids!”

Fitness, for her, is about vitality, longevity, and celebrating life—not just achieving a certain look.

Confidence Born from Hard Work

Apples’ confidence shines because it is earned. She embraces her body proudly, recognizing the power in persistence:

“The female body is remarkable, and recognizing that gives me confidence.”

And she celebrates her achievements joyfully:

“After all those squats, why skip the bikini? No way—I’m rocking it!”

Her story proves that confidence grows from self-acceptance and honoring the effort we put into our lives.

Balance, Kindness, and Self-Compassion

Part of Apples’ philosophy is maintaining kindness toward herself while pursuing her goals.

“With all the hard work, I do my best to still treat myself.”

Her approach combines discipline with joy: work hard for a time, enjoy life fully, and avoid unnecessary self-misery. Listening to your body and savoring the process, she says, is the key to lasting fulfillment.

Her Message: Stop Comparing, Start Loving Yourself

For women hesitant to reveal themselves, Apples offers this empowering advice:

“Work hard! You know what is good and bad for you. Stop comparing yourself to others and love on yourself!”

She reminds us that self-love comes from focusing on personal progress:

“If you are doing all the things that serve you, you will eventually find the self-love and confidence to be happy and proud to show off your beautiful body!”

Her words are a powerful call to action: honor your journey, and celebrate the unique beauty that is yours alone.

Embrace Your Body and Celebrate Self-Love

Apolonia’s story is not just about fitness—it’s about transformation. It’s about overcoming self-doubt, finding strength through discipline, and discovering confidence through self-love. Her journey as a Bare Model shows us that self-respect comes from honoring our bodies and celebrating progress.

For anyone on a path toward self-love, Apples offers one final reminder:

"stop comparing yourself to others, start celebrating yourself, and embrace your body in every stage of life."

Find Apple's on instagram: @apoloniacalleja

She Spent Years Hating Her Body—Here’s the Secret to Loving It

Until One Bold Decision Taught Her to Love It

In the vibrant cityscape of Orlando, where sunshine paints the world in hues of warmth and magic dances through the air, we uncover the inspiring narrative of Courtney Faith—a 24-year-old beacon of self-love against the backdrop of fairy tales and palm trees.

The Struggle We All Know

For much of her life, Courtney carried the weight of insecurity. Like so many women, she felt pressured by society’s standards—filters, diets, and beauty ideals that seemed impossible to reach. The reflection in the mirror was rarely met with kindness.

Her story mirrors what countless women experience but rarely say out loud. It’s the quiet self-doubt that creeps in during a fitting room, the endless scrolling through social media, the comparisons that never seem to stop.

Focusing on What Her Body Can Do

Rather than fixating on appearance, Courtney learned to focus on what her body could accomplish. She explored a diverse array of activities—dance classes, boxing, running, pole dancing—each contributing to a positive spirit that resonated within both body and mind.

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Positive affirmations became the brushstrokes of self-love, painting a healthier relationship with herself. In the ever-changing landscape of her body, she found pride in accomplishments and became an inspiration for others striving to be healthy.

The Bold Decision That Changed Everything

Courtney reached a turning point. Instead of trying to shrink herself, she chose to step into her true self—embracing the curves, freckles, and every part of her that once felt like something to hide.

That decision was radical not because it changed her body, but because it changed the way she saw her body.

She began to speak to herself with the same love she had always given others. In doing so, she discovered the freedom of living unfiltered and real.

Why Her Story Matters

Courtney’s journey reminds us that confidence isn’t built in a day—it’s nurtured in the small, intentional choices we make daily.

This truth lies at the heart of our mission at OBARE: to celebrate women in their most authentic form. Just as Courtney learned to love herself without filters, our community thrives on radical honesty, empowerment, and sisterhood.

A Lesson for Us All

Self-love doesn’t come from diets, filters, or chasing perfection. It comes from accepting that who you are—right now—is already enough.

Courtney’s story isn’t just about one woman in Orlando. It’s a reflection of a movement: women everywhere choosing themselves, rewriting beauty standards, and embracing what makes them beautifully human.

To see more of Courtney follow her on IG @thecourtneyfaith

She Battled Anorexia at 17 — Then Picked Up a Camera and It Changed Everything

Meet Zoe Waechter, a 23-year-old French woman born in Bastia, Corsica, with a rich heritage spanning Kabyle and German descent. Today, we explore Zoe’s inspiring story of how photography became a powerful tool in helping her appreciate and love her body.

Zoe’s Journey of Self-Discovery Through Photography

Zoe’s relationship with her body has been far from simple. Like many women, she faced immense pressure to conform to society’s beauty standards, leading her down a dangerous path. At just 17, Zoe struggled with anorexia, a dark period where her mind and body waged a relentless battle.

Growing up in a culture that glorified a narrow body type, Zoe often felt inadequate. To meet these unrealistic expectations, she subjected her body to trauma, striving for an elusive “ideal.” But then, something transformative happened—Zoe discovered photography.

Through the lens, she began to see herself differently.

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Exploring her image from multiple angles and in various styles allowed her to reframe her self-perception and step away from the negative beliefs that had haunted her for years.

Finding Zoe’s Place: A Turning Point in Greece

The most significant shift in Zoe’s journey toward self-acceptance came when she found her sanctuary in Greece. Moving there in October, she discovered a sense of peace and fulfillment that had eluded her for years. Greece became a refuge from self-doubt, a place where Zoe could finally feel aligned with her body and identity.

Embracing Zoe’s Favorite Feature: Her Eyes

When asked about her favorite part of her body, Zoe immediately points to her eyes. “They are the windows to my identity, my mood, and my emotions,” she says. Unlike her ongoing struggles with areas like her thighs or stomach, her eyes have always been a source of self-love—a reminder of her true self.

Zoe’s Message of Hope for Women

For women struggling to embrace their bodies, Zoe shares a powerful message: your relationship with your body can evolve. Even in the darkest moments, self-love is possible. Life is full of ups and downs, and every experience is part of your personal growth. Reconnect with yourself, pursue what brings you joy, and understand that the journey toward self-love is ongoing.

(BTS of Zoe before shooting)

3 Tips From Zoe to Boost Confidence

1. Recognize Your Worth
Stop underestimating yourself. Celebrate even the smallest daily achievements and acknowledge your intrinsic value.

2. Social Media Awareness
Distance yourself from overly curated online content. Understand that much of what you see on social media, especially in photography, is retouched. Real beauty is not airbrushed perfection.

3. Practice Self-Reliance
Embrace your ability to take care of yourself independently. Solo travel or personal projects can be transformative, helping you grow and discover your true strength.

Photography and Self-Love: Zoe’s Guiding Lights

Photography and finding her place in Greece have been pivotal in Zoe’s journey toward self-acceptance. She encourages women to embark on their own paths of self-discovery, reminding them that even in challenging moments, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

Every step forward is a step toward self-love, confidence, and a more fulfilling future.

To see more of Zoe follow her on Instagram @zoewaectr

Discover How Stripping Away the Filters Reveals the Kind of Beauty You’ve Always Had

In a society of ever-changing beauty standards, Bare Model Arielle Lopez shines like a Rigel star of self-love and empowerment. With Guatemalan, Dominican, Italian, and German roots, she celebrates her unique heritage and the ambiguous beauty it has given her, hoping to illuminate others to embrace their own beautiful cultures and identities.

From Guatemala to Los Angeles: A Journey of Identity and Insecurities

At just six years old, Arielle moved from Guatemala to Los Angeles. Now 28, she reflects on her struggle with body image and learning how to love herself.

With her curvy petite frame, she often compared herself to unrealistic ideals—a thigh gap, skinny legs, and a flat stomach. Over time, she realized chasing those standards only created more self-doubt.

Fitness as a Tool for Empowerment

(Arielle’s typical workout day)

A turning point came when Arielle discovered fitness as a way to celebrate her body. Through consistency and determination, she began to see her body not for what it lacked, but for its strength and resilience.

(Pull-ups in progress… booty looking blessed)

Her journey clearly shows that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes—especially in her 5'1", 107 lb petite frame.

The Bold Barefaced Photoshoot

One of Arielle’s most pivotal moments was her OBARE photoshoot. She went completely without makeup—raw, unfiltered, and topless—embracing vulnerability as strength.

(Arielle removing her makeup for our no-makeup photoshoot.)

For the first time, she saw herself exactly as she was—inside and out. By going Bare, Arielle showed that confidence isn’t about covering up, but about celebrating your body as it is.

Arielle’s Topless Moment: Her Body as a Canvas

Going topless as a Bare Model gave Arielle freedom. She embraced her curves, stretch marks, and cellulite, turning her body into a living work of art.

“These natural aspects are beautiful testaments to the realness of the female body,” Arielle says.

A Message of Self-Love for Every Woman

For anyone struggling with body image, Arielle’s advice is simple but powerful:

“Embrace your uniqueness, for you were born perfect.”

A reminder to anyone reading this: true confidence comes from within—letting your inner love radiate outward, attracting positive energy and opportunities that go far beyond fleeting beauty standards.

Why Arielle’s Story Matters

Trends come and go, but Arielle’s journey proves that loving yourself is forever. Her story inspires women to focus on what truly matters—personal growth, inner joy, and yes, a nice natural booty. J/k, LOL… I meant natural beauty (but booty love is timeless too)!

(A little BTS — with Arielle's natural curves stealing the show.)

Find Arielle on Instagram: @ariellelopezzz

From Insecurity to Inspiration: How She Transformed Self-Doubt Into Art

How Georgia Found Confidence and Self-Love Through Creativity

At just 8 or 9 years old, Georgia was mesmerized by an M&S Christmas advent, captivated by the ethereal models who seemed to embody grace and beauty. That moment ignited a lifelong passion for art through self-expression and creativity.

Today, Georgia is a vibrant 27-year-old artist, photographer, and mother who radiates confidence—though her journey hasn’t been free from insecurities.

"I've never called myself a model before. Maybe I should start? I don't know. All I know is I'm a girl who loves to be in front and behind the camera. It's freeing," she reflects.

From Insecurities to Self-Expression

Georgia’s journey has been one of self-discovery. Through painting and photography, she’s found healing and empowerment.

Her art offers subjects a powerful gift: the chance to see themselves as magnificent works of art. In doing so, she discovered a truth many women need to hear—our insecurities are often invisible to others, even when they feel overwhelming to us.

Embracing Her Body and Her Journey

Motherhood deepened Georgia’s gratitude for her body. She proudly celebrates the victories it has given her, like bringing two daughters into the world and breastfeeding for 18 months.

Georgia now encourages other women to:

• Embrace their bodies without shame.
• Appreciate the journey, not just the destination.
• Practice unconditional self-love.

The Camera as Confidence

Photography is where Georgia feels most confident and liberated. Behind and in front of the lens, she connects with her sensual, powerful self—a version of her that daily life as a working mother sometimes dims.

"You have to stop caring what other people think,"

she says. While it may sound cliché, Georgia believes this mindset shift is the foundation of lasting self-confidence. Her advice is simple: Wear what makes you feel good, not just what looks good. Confidence starts with joy and radiates outward.

Courage Before Confidence

Georgia lives by one simple mantra:

“First comes courage, then comes confidence.”

To her, courage is the first step to transformation. Each small act of bravery—whether in art, photography, or motherhood—builds confidence that blooms over time.

Why Georgia’s Story Matters‍

Georgia’s journey reminds us that:

• Self-love is learned, not given.
• Body confidence is personal—and your curves are meant to be celebrated.
• Art can be healing.
• Courage unlocks confidence.
• Embracing your sexy body is a radical act of self-respect.

Through her paintbrush and her lens, she captures the beauty she sees in others while learning to embrace her own.

Connect With Georgia

Georgia’s journey is a powerful ode to self-love, and artistry. To follow her work and see more of her photography, connect with her on Instagram: @_giababyy

From Shame to Song: How Bailey Rushlow Found Her Voice and Her Confidence

(Editorial originally published on July 26 2023)

An inspiring story of self-discovery and body acceptance.

Meet Bailey Rushlow, a 27-year-old Nashville singer-songwriter with a rich heritage of Scottish, Greek, French, and Cherokee roots. Bailey’s journey hasn’t just been about music—It’s been about overcoming years of self-doubt, embracing her true self, and inspiring those around her to do the same.

Early Struggles with Body Image

At just 14, Bailey felt the pressure of societal beauty standards. Struggling to fit into her swimsuit for swim-team practice, she began questioning her body—its curves, softness, and stretch marks. Compounded by religious conditioning, Bailey believed that full self-acceptance was abnormal.

Her story reflects a deeply personal journey many women share before finding their confidence—a journey of vulnerability before finding strength.

The Path to Self-Appreciation

A decade of growth taught Bailey to celebrate her body, her curly hair, and her menstrual cycle. She learned that rejecting unrealistic beauty ideals was the key to living freely.

For her, music became more than a career—it became a form of empowerment.

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Her song "(Simply) The Best" symbolizes her journey. Singing it is Bailey’s personal affirmation—her declaration of becoming the best version of herself. Her art carries a message of hope and self-love.

Bailey’s Message to Others

Bailey encourages women to:

1. Embrace Your Unique Perspective — Validation starts from within.
2. Prioritize Your Happiness — Authentic living brings true fulfillment.
3. Embrace Your Cosmic Blueprint — Reject societal pressures and celebrate your individuality.

Looking Ahead: Creativity and Community

Bailey dreams of a life filled with connection and creative expression:

• A cozy cottage with a lush garden
• Continuing her music career
• Hosting her podcast, The Cosmic Nomad
• Raising children who embody self-love and acceptance

Discovering OBARE and Her Authentic Self

In 2019, Bailey found OBARE (formerly SundayMorningView), a platform celebrating real, unfiltered beauty. Inspired by its mission, Bailey embraced her body without filters or makeup, stepping into authenticity both on and off the stage.

Her journey is a testament to the power of self-love, self-expression, and healing. Bailey’s story is a reminder that our voices matter, our experiences matter, and our authenticity matters.

Bailey reflects:
“Who we were as children is who we still are—but often deeply buried under layers of conditioning, trauma, responsibilities, and so much more. Healing starts with connecting to your younger self.”

Bailey Rushlow’s journey is more than a personal transformation—it’s an anthem for anyone seeking confidence, body acceptance, and the courage to go bare.

(Here is a video that is inspirational. Bailey Rushlow reflects on healing and self-discovery: “Who we were as children is who we still are—but often deeply buried under layers of conditioning, trauma, responsibilities, and so much more.” Through this journey, she encourages taking time to connect with your younger self. This practice brings deep healing and creates a lasting impact on our lives. Text by Bailey Rushlow, adapted from her words on Instagram (@baileynrushlow).)

Find Bailey on Instagram: @baileynrushlow.

You tell yourself, “Just one little tweak.”

Plastic Surgery in Today’s Beauty-Obsessed World

In an era where plastic surgery is more popular, affordable, and accessible than ever, artist Frédéric Doazan offers a sobering—and satirical—look at its controversial consequences. His short animation, Supervenus, uses the power of Photoshop to take viewers on a journey that’s both comical and unsettling, revealing the dark side of cosmetic enhancements and the absurdity of chasing an idealized appearance.

This isn’t just entertainment—it’s a stark reminder of the risks of plastic surgery and the way society fuels impossible beauty standards.

(Discover Frédéric Doazan’s Supervenus, a darkly comical animation exposing the risks of plastic surgery. Watch the full time-lapse Photoshop process behind this satirical masterpiece.)

The Legacy of Plastic Surgery Disasters

For decades, we’ve been fascinated—and horrified—by plastic surgery gone wrong. From viral news headlines to reality TV shows, botched procedures and extreme makeovers have been part of the cultural conversation.

Doazan’s Supervenus draws inspiration from this unsettling history. With his satirical lens, he critiques our relentless pursuit of physical perfection, showing how cosmetic procedures can spiral into nightmarish transformations.

A Disturbing Transformation—Frame by Frame

Through animation, Supervenus depicts the gradual alteration of a woman’s face and body—each change exaggerated to grotesque extremes.

What begins as subtle touch-ups quickly escalates into absurd, and at times shocking, distortions. The more she is “perfected,” the more unsettling the result becomes, echoing the dangers of excessive cosmetic enhancement.

Comedy Meets Critique

Despite the heavy subject matter, Supervenus blends satire with surreal humor. The bizarre, exaggerated changes make us laugh—yet they also make us uneasy.

Doazan uses this tension to spark reflection: What drives us to alter our appearance so drastically? How far is too far?

Beyond the Laughs: A Cultural Wake-Up Call

Beneath its comedic surface, Supervenus is a commentary on the societal pressures that fuel cosmetic obsession. It invites viewers to question:

• Are we complicit in promoting unrealistic beauty ideals?
• Have we normalized procedures that carry life-changing risks?
• At what cost do we chase perfection?

The Message Behind Supervenus

Doazan’s work challenges us to embrace authenticity and self-acceptance in a world obsessed with filters, fillers, and flawless images.

By the time the animation ends, we’re left with an uncomfortable truth: in our pursuit of beauty, we may be distorting the very thing that makes us human.

Final Thoughts

Supervenus isn’t just a short film—it’s a mirror. One that reflects both our fascination with beauty and the extreme measures we’ll take to achieve it.

With its satirical edge and jarring visuals, this animation stands as a powerful reminder: beauty ideals may be ever-changing, but the cost of chasing them can be permanent.

What changes when you stop viewing yourself through someone else’s lens?

At 23, Alejandra—a woman of Dutch and Mexican heritage—began a transformative journey to discover inner love. In a society that often sexualizes women and imposes rigid beauty standards, she once struggled deeply with her body image. Through introspection and a powerful shift in perspective, Bare Model Alejandra rediscovered her love for her body.

Struggling with Society’s Beauty Standards

Alejandra candidly recalls feeling objectified and pressured to conform to society's narrow definition of beauty. For years, she tied her self-worth to physical appearance, longing to fit a specific mold for acceptance. Over time, she realized that true confidence cannot come from external validation—it must come from within.

Shifting Perspective: From External Validation to Self-Acceptance

The turning point came when Alejandra realized that no compliment or attention could fill the void inside. Seeing herself only through the lens of others’ expectations had diminished her value as a strong woman. By celebrating her stunning, God-given curves and owning just how confident and beautiful she is at every stage of life, she unlocked a deeper sense of self-worth.

(BTS of Alejandra, owning her curves with a playful jiggle.)

Embracing Her Natural Self: A Liberating Photoshoot

In an empowering act of self-expression, Alejandra went Bare in a raw, unfiltered OBARE photoshoot—without makeup. Capturing her authentic self challenged the notion that women must be “all done up” to be beautiful. Her message is clear: Unfiltered beauty transcends superficial societal standards.

Experiencing Body Liberation Through Art

Alejandra explored the transformative power of nude photography—not to objectify, but to celebrate her body as art. Through this intimate and liberating experience, she embraced her skin, curves, and emotions, building a deeper, empowering relationship with her body.

Empowerment and Advocacy for Women

To women struggling with self-love, Alejandra offers a heartfelt message: recognize that mass media often manufactures beauty standards for ulterior motives. She encourages embracing personal standards, celebrating the body’s natural abilities, and honoring the miracle of carrying life.

(More BTS, with Alejandra laughing out loud as Karlo tries to keep up with her fun energy.)

Reframing Fitness: Mental and Physical Wellness First

Alejandra openly shares how the gym initially worsened her body dysmorphia. Over time, she shifted her focus from chasing an aesthetic ideal to prioritizing overall mental and physical well-being. She champions a holistic approach to fitness that celebrates health over appearance.

Looking Ahead: Fostering Self-Love and Acceptance

Alejandra’s vision is to empower women to connect deeply—beyond superficial expectations. She hopes to dismantle restrictive beauty standards, promoting a culture of self-love, acceptance, and holistic wellness.

"May we all embrace our unique beauty, recognizing it as a force capable of changing the world—one empowered woman at a time."

Find Alejandra on Instagram: @divinely.ale

Alexandra Renee: From Struggle to Self-Love

She trained like a pro but still felt like she was losing—until something shifted.

During our trip to Phoenix, Arizona, we had the joy of photographing Alexandra Renee in a shoot that was nothing short of breathtaking. Her body? A work of art. Her spirit? Just as colorful and inspiring. Today, as a proud Bare Model, Alexandra embraces her curves and natural beauty without filters, without makeup—just truth.

But her journey here wasn’t easy.

Finding Confidence After Weight Gain

“Most of my life I was thinner because of soccer, but in the last two years I gained over 25 pounds,” Alexandra shared. “At first, I felt disgusting—but eventually I learned to appreciate my weight for what it is. Recently I lost the 25 pounds, and now I feel this is my forever home. I aim to nurture my body rather than beat myself up trying to be perfect.”

Redefining Beauty Marks

High school was tough for Alexandra, especially when it came to stretch marks.

("Me and Alexandra laughing as we tried to recreate a previous pose... nothing but fun! These black-and-white images we created are truly timeless." — Karlo Gomez, Photographer)

“I used to hate them. Seriously, high school was brutal. But now? I look at them and say:

‘Damn, this is such a pretty feature to have.’ They show my progress, my growth, my story.”

Embracing Bare Skin

Shooting with no makeup wasn’t a challenge—it was freedom.
“I don’t usually wear much makeup anyway, so it felt amazing to be true to my natural skin and beauty.”

Even posing partially nude became a breakthrough moment.

“At first? Totally nerve-wracking. But once I got comfortable, I felt confident in my skin. It made me appreciate my body even more.”

The Gym: A Double-Edged Sword

“Honestly, it’s a double-edged sword. Sometimes I’ve felt like I didn’t belong because I didn’t look like everyone else. But the flip side? I feel strong and empowered when I lift or hit a new PR. Strength isn’t just about looks—it’s about how your body feels.”

Inspirations Along the Way

Right now, Alexandra draws inspiration from The Way by Emilio Estevez, The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, and The Secret by Rhonda Byrne—each a reminder of presence, growth, and possibility.

What’s Next for Alexandra

She isn’t done yet.
“I want to keep transforming my body and pushing limits. Through personal training and Instagram, I hope to inspire others and maybe become someone people look up to.”

(Leg day with Alexandra: strong quads, sore hammies, and the eternal struggle of putting on pants the next day)

Why We Love Alexandra Renee

At the heart of her story, Alexandra shows us that confidence comes from embracing yourself—not chasing perfection. She’s proof that beauty is in the messy, the unfiltered, the authentic.

Find Alexandra on Instagram @alexandra_renee17

The New Rules of Confidence: Angelina Love’s Journey to Self-Love and Fearless Beauty

Second-generation Mexican-American. Dreamer. Fighter. Bare Model. This is Angelina Love’s story.

Angelina Love moved across the country to Los Angeles with one bold goal — to pursue modeling full-time. As the oldest sibling with family responsibilities, her journey wasn’t easy. Growing up, she stood out: curvier than her peers, with hips, boobs, and curly hair — qualities that made her feel different in a world chasing beauty standards that rarely included her.

Her journey wasn’t smooth. Auditions, rejections, and societal expectations challenged her at every turn. But those challenges shaped her resilience. They taught her confidence. And most importantly, they taught her self-love.

“For a very long time, loving myself wasn’t easy. Being around the wrong people made it harder. Eventually, I learned I had to put myself first and be in love with myself before I could allow anyone else to. If I didn’t, I’d believe the negative things said by others. Thankfully, I’ve made it this far — and I plan to go even further.”

Today, Angelina stands as a signed model in LA, ready to release music, embracing her individuality, and inspiring women everywhere. As she says:

“Someone, somewhere has an opinion of me, but I've learned to love my body no matter the shape or size.”

From Self-Criticism to Self-Love

Q: How have you struggled to love your body?

“I've struggled my whole life. My body seems to go against every beauty standard. When stick-skinny was ideal, I was curvier. Now the ideal has shifted, and I’m still told I’m not perfect. What helped me was not letting beauty standards or media define my worth. We are all beautiful in our own ways — our flaws make us stand out.”

Q: How have you struggled loving your slender body?

“It’s been an interesting battle. Many think my body is perfect — but perfection is subjective. When I stopped listening to outside opinions, I found peace. Beauty standards are always changing — so why pay attention to them?”

Q: Do people think you don’t have self-love issues because of your physique?

“Insecurity isn’t reserved for certain people. Just like anyone else, I have mine. I’ve been told I’m too big, too short, too skinny. But I’ve learned to love my body no matter what. I control my own power — and nobody can take that away.”

(Angelina ditched the makeup, kept the glow, and reminded us that confidence is the real contour—oh, and her booty deserves its own spotlight.)

Her First Time Going Bare

For Angelina, shooting topless for the first time wasn’t just a photoshoot — it was a revelation.

“At first, I was nervous. I had never done anything like this in my modeling career. But facing that new territory made me more confident. I learned to pose with my body, not hide behind materials. I felt empowered knowing my story could inspire women worldwide facing similar struggles.”

Shooting without makeup gave her a deeper appreciation for imperfection.

“Seeing imperfections is powerful — in yourself and others. It was challenging at first because we are our own biggest critics. But I learned to love my imperfections — my dark circles, my curves, my body as it is.”

And topless? That brought a new kind of love.

“I’ve always been self-conscious about my breasts, but now I love their shape… cute little things.”

A Message for Women Everywhere

Angelina’s journey reminds us that self-love is not a destination — it’s a constant act of courage.

“Dear ladies, how can the world love your body if you don’t love it yourself? If you don’t give yourself the love first, no one else’s words will matter. Remember, there is only ONE you. That’s your character — something no one can ever take away. Love your body, embrace the process, and spread love. Nothing is worth closing your heart over, especially someone’s negative comment.”

No Makeup, No Filters: Willow Johnson Celebrates Her True Beauty

When Willow Johnson walks into a room, you notice her presence immediately—tall, athletic, and glowing with natural beauty. But her journey to self-confidence wasn’t always so effortless.

("During my session with Willow, she showed off her radiant personality and natural beauty—while celebrating her hard-earned body. Proof that confidence is the best filter.” — Karlo Gomez, Photographer)

Like many women, Willow struggled with body image from an early age.
“I used to hate my rolls when I would sit down, my side profile, or the rolls on my back when I moved a certain way,” she admits. “Now I’ve learned to embrace these ‘flaws’ as part of me. There’s nothing wrong with my body when I sit or move a certain way. Take the differences you have from everyone else and embrace them.”

That honest self-reflection is what drew us to feature Willow as a Bare Model at OBARE, where our mission is to celebrate women just as they are—unfiltered, makeup-free, and yes, with cellulite (or as we like to call them, ‘dimples’).

Even as a professional volleyball player and fitness enthusiast, Willow realized that strength and beauty don’t erase cellulite. “I think it’s completely normal,” she shares. “I can workout and be fit, but still have cellulite, and that is OK!”

At 6’2, Willow once felt insecure about her height. Bullying made her wish she could shrink into the background. Today, she embraces her long legs and stands tall with pride. “Now I think it’s beautiful being tall. I wouldn’t change it.”

Her photoshoot with OBARE pushed that self-love even further. Shooting bare-faced felt liberating: “I normally only wear makeup for events, so shooting without it was amazing. It enhanced my natural skin and allowed me to be true to my beauty.”

As the photos shifted toward implied shots, Willow embraced her nerves and left feeling stronger.

“I was nervous about how my body would look or if the shots would turn out good—but I was shocked and so happy with how beautiful they came out.”

Through it all, Willow’s story proves that confidence carries power—and power makes you unstoppable.

Her message to women who struggle with self-love is clear:

“There is only one you in the whole world. Take the differences you have from everyone else and embrace them. You are beautiful, and the ‘flaws’ on your body are beautiful. I hope young women see my photos on OBARE and feel inspired to love their own natural body.”

Why We Love Willow Johnson
Loving your body and building confidence aren’t about looking perfect—they’re about celebrating quirks, dimples, and everything that makes you, you. Willow shows us that true beauty comes from standing tall and embracing yourself exactly as you are.

Find Willow on Instagram @Willowj4.

From Former Model to Authentic Self: Meet Ryley Gordon

Ryley Gordon’s journey isn’t just about transformation — it’s about rediscovering what true beauty really means, starting with the simple act of removing her makeup for our shoot.

As a former fashion model, she spent years chasing an industry standard that often left her feeling ‘not enough.’ She was told she was too short, needed to lose weight, or that her look was ‘too commercial.’ The pressure to fit in, combined with endless criticism, made her self-conscious and disconnected from her worth.

But Ryley’s story didn’t end there.

Growing up in Southern California, she fell in love with surfing, plant-based living, and art. She has painted her whole life, drawing inspiration from the beauty of the human body. She found empowerment in nature, with animals, and through movement — surfing, hiking, yoga, and dance. Slowly, she began to shift her mindset from what her body looked like to what her body could do.

“I used to plan my week around clean eating and workouts, obsessed with looking a certain way,” she admits. But stepping away from the industry gave her freedom. She discovered intuitive eating, stopped checking the scale, and started moving her body simply to feel good.

Now, Ryley embraces her authentic self as a Bare Model — going bare, no makeup, no filters, just unfiltered beauty. Her message is simple but powerful:

“Don’t be so hard on yourself — you are doing great.”

Through daily affirmations, she reminds herself:

• I am beautiful.
• My body is meant to change.
• My confidence shines through stronger than my dress size.

Ryley also knows she’s not alone. Women everywhere are pressured by social media edits, diet culture, plastic surgery ads, and anti-aging products — all of which condition us to believe we’re not enough. But she believes vulnerability and honesty can break that cycle.

“Most of what you see online is curated. Even fitness influencers show only their best angles. Remember: we all change, evolve, and experience highs and lows. Don’t be too hard on yourself — you’re doing great.”

Today, Ryley stands as a symbol of women’s empowerment, body acceptance, and natural beauty. By sharing her truth, she’s inspiring other women to embrace what makes them unique, practice self-love, and rewrite the definition of beauty.

Find Ryley on Instagram @ryleygordon.

The Secret to Confidence Every Woman Overlooks

Artistic photographer and Bare Model Dominique Muscianese loves spending time with her dog, exploring new experiences, and enjoying good food. Beyond her personal passions, Dominique brings years of modeling experience and a deep love for capturing people in their most beautiful forms, which you can see on her Instagram photography page @DOMONIZIAPhoto.

Like many women, Dominique’s journey to self-love wasn’t always easy. Before stepping in front of the camera professionally, she struggled with her self-image. “Before I had my glow-up stage at 18, I never felt pretty enough to be a model because I would constantly look up to supermodels and compare myself to their similar pretty features,” she recalls.

It wasn’t until she moved to Los Angeles and took a leap of faith that Dominique began embracing her uniqueness. Through artistic photoshoots and self-exploration, she became a proud Bare Model—capturing beauty without filters or edits—and inspiring women to celebrate their own bodies.

From Self-Doubt to Self-Love

Dominique faced the same struggles as countless women who feel they don’t measure up to society’s beauty standards. But by stepping outside her comfort zone, she learned that confidence comes from accepting yourself fully.

Her advice for women struggling with self-love is simple yet powerful: “There is no secret way to fall in love with yourself, it’s just a matter of putting yourself first and telling yourself you’re beautiful during both high and low times.” Her self-love tip? Give yourself a compliment every day and surround yourself with positive energy.

“A woman’s body is the closest thing there is to magic,” Dominique says.

Q&A with Dominique Muscianese

What do you love most about your body?
“I love my curves, my skin color, and my eyes and lips.”

What makes you feel confident with your body and who you are?
“I enjoy taking photos of myself, learning my body, and discovering poses that work well. Many women feel bad about their bodies because they see unflattering photos or feel awkward in front of the camera. Learning your shape, curves, and angles is key to appreciating yourself.”

Do you have any self-care or self-love tips?
“Give yourself a compliment every day, even if you’re not feeling it. Taking a shower and getting ready for the day boosts self-esteem. Surround yourself with people who hype you up.”

What message do you have for other women who struggle to appreciate and love their bodies?
“There is no secret to falling in love with yourself. It’s about putting yourself first and telling yourself you’re beautiful during both high and low times.”

Anything else you’d like readers to know?
“Inspired by posing and how it helped me love myself, I created MODXDOM—a service where I teach people how to pose and appreciate their bodies. It’s a community full of positivity and empowerment for women. Check it out!”

Find Dominique on Instagram: @dominique_muscianese.

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Sharon’s Story: From Self-Loathing to Self-Love

I recently had the privilege of photographing Sharon, a Bare Model, whose journey toward self-love reflects struggles many women face. During our time together, she shared her story—the pressures, the pain, and the freedom she discovered in redefining beauty for herself.

Confronting Beauty Standards

‍For years, Sharon battled rigid beauty ideals—standards dictating the “perfect” size and shape. The relentless pressure to conform left her questioning her worth. “For years, I felt like my body was the enemy,” she shared.

The Meaning of Stretch Marks

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Our makeup-free photoshoot was more than capturing images—it was about seeing beauty from a new perspective. For Sharon, stretch marks once stirred pain and self-doubt. She asked herself: Why do they exist? The answer became a powerful realization—imperfections are part of what makes us unique.

Rewriting the Inner Dialogue

‍Sharon also faced the quiet but destructive force of negative self-talk. Instead of criticism, she now practices kindness.

“I started talking to myself the way I’d talk to a friend—with love.”

This simple yet profound shift changed everything.

A Newfound Gratitude

‍Today, Sharon carries deep gratitude for her body and all it has carried her through. The self-loathing is gone, replaced by appreciation and acceptance.

A Story of Resilience and Natural Beauty

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My session with Sharon wasn’t just about photographs—it was about capturing her strength, vulnerability, and natural beauty that first caught my attention. Her journey inspires many women to embrace their natural features. I hope her images become an invitation for even more women to celebrate their own natural beauty.

(A little reminder from Sharon)

"Natural beauty begins the moment you start appreciating being yourself."

Find Sharon on Instagram: @sharontheclaw.

A Bare Model’s Journey of Self-Love Empowerment

From an early age, she struggled with body image — constantly seeking validation that she was beautiful and worthy. As a mixed-race woman, athlete, mother, and model, she faced challenges unique to her journey. She was bullied and shamed for her skin tone, athletic build, racial ambiguity, and even her maternal status. Even within her own family, she endured judgment over the way she dressed and wore her hair. Acceptance, she realized, had always been something she longed for.

(BTS of capturing magic  — vitiligo as art, and Bailey's beautiful curves as poetry.)

Finding Strength Through Others

‍Everything shifted when she began connecting with and uplifting other women.

“Hearing myself lift others up changed me,”

she shares. “It reframed my inner dialogue and helped me embrace my own body fully.” Participating in artistic shoots as a Bare Model became a powerful practice — an opportunity to honor her body, and her story.

Learning to Love Her Body

‍“I love how strong my body is and the constant flow of energy I feel moving through it,”

she says. “I love how grounded I feel in my own skin and how my body has served me through thick and thin. Physically, I love my spots — my skin is an ever-changing work of art I get to explore every few months.”

The Meaning of Self-Love

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For her, self-love is both a mindset and a practice. “Self-love means embracing every part of myself while honoring the things I love about my body. More importantly, it’s not allowing others to make me feel guilty for the things I don’t like as much. It’s about unfollowing trends that don’t serve me and doing what makes me feel the best.”

Her work as a Bare Model has reinforced this belief — that the human body, in its most natural form, is a masterpiece worth celebrating.

Advice for Women Struggling with Body Acceptance

‍“It’s okay to struggle — it’s perfectly normal, and you are not alone. Struggling is part of the process; it’s your body and mind telling you that you are ready for change.” She continues, “I can’t tell you exactly what to do — that’s for you to discover — but I promise that when you intentionally seek ways to love yourself, those small steps add up to big shifts. If you fight through your difficulty, you WILL reach the other side. Queen, it’s amazing here. I wish nothing but to meet you in this place of liberation — from others’ opinions and even your own harsh judgment.”

Tips for the Journey:

• Find what works for you
• Take one intentional step at a time
• Be patient and give yourself grace
• Expect challenges
• Listen to your body
• Don’t fear lessons from failure

For those of you wondering, Bailey’s skin condition is called vitiligo — a condition where the skin loses its pigment cells, often resulting in white patches. Vitiligo can develop due to genetic factors, autoimmune responses, or sometimes as a result of skin trauma, and it can affect anyone regardless of age, gender, or skin type.

Find Bailey on Instagram: @TheQweenBayOfficial.

How This Bare Model Redefines Self-Love and Body Confidence

Learning to See Herself

Despite being in her early 20s, Bare Model Asia McKinney speaks with the wisdom of someone who has faced and overcome self-doubt. Growing up in middle school, Asia struggled with body image. Among her petite peers, her thicker thighs and natural curves made her feel out of place. She questioned her worth and beauty, often comparing herself to others.

Her mother’s constant reassurance planted the first seeds of self-acceptance — that she was beautiful just as she was. These early lessons guided Asia toward embracing her natural body and helped her understand that beauty is not one-size-fits-all.

Embracing Her Identity

As Asia grew older, she noticed that others admired her natural shape. Slowly, she learned to celebrate her body for its uniqueness rather than criticize it.

“I can walk outside without makeup and feel like I’m that girl,”

she says, highlighting the shift from external validation to inner confidence.

Asia’s transformation wasn’t just about appearances — it was about attitude and self-belief. She realized that the reflection in the mirror was only part of the story; how she carried herself mattered just as much.

To nurture her self-acceptance, Asia developed a self-care routine. From yoga sessions to facials and essential oil baths, she treats her body with care. Journaling keeps her in touch with her thoughts and emotions, reinforcing her connection to herself.

Inspiring Others to Love Themselves

Even as a Bare Model, Asia admits she still faces moments of doubt. But she approaches them with kindness and patience, encouraging others to do the same:

“Put yourself out there. Accept yourself for who you are.”

Pointing to her cellulite, body dimples, and jiggly arms, she emphasizes:

“It’s okay to love yourself… this is who I am.”

Loving Her Thick Thighs

If there’s one thing Asia is unapologetically proud of, it’s her thighs. Once the feature that made her feel out of place among her peers, they’ve now become one of her favorite parts of her body — aside from her booty. “I just love how strong and thick they look,” she says with a grin. Instead of hiding them, Asia celebrates them — even hitting workouts that make them thicker and stronger.

And let’s be honest, thick thighs come with their own perks (and quirks). From powering through yoga sessions to the classic “thigh rub in the summertime,” Asia takes it all in stride. She laughs about it now: “Who needs a thigh gap when you’ve got thighs that could crush watermelons?”

When Asia sees photos of herself embracing her curves, she feels powerful, beautiful, and yes — sexy. “All of it,” she says. “It’s a reminder that my body is art, and my thighs are part of my masterpiece.”

For women everywhere, it’s a reminder that strength and softness can live in the same place — and that embracing the parts of yourself you once doubted can become your biggest confidence flex.

Asia’s story shows the power of natural beauty and self-acceptance. She wants readers to know that happiness doesn’t come from others — it comes from embracing your body, mind, and spirit exactly as you are.

Find Asia on Instagram @asiaa.rose.

What Happens When You Finally Confront the Childhood That Still Controls You

Dear Me: Healing from Childhood Trauma and PTSD

We’ve been through so many life hurdles together. At such a young age, our innocence was taken away. We grew up in a household filled with violence, a cycle rooted in intergenerational trauma.

The feeling of never being good enough for our Tiger Mom, always trying to be people-pleasers, and battling with not feeling enough took a heavy emotional and mental toll. This lack of familial love pushed us to seek refuge in romantic relationships — but those often failed.

Falling for the wrong people, dating to fill an emptiness, and self-sabotaging even with kind partners were all signs that we weren’t ready for true companionship.

Struggling with PTSD, Anxiety, Bulimia, and Depression

As our inner demons slowly surfaced and lived beneath our skin, we pushed away friends and lovers who truly cared. We hated ourselves, silently screaming for help but feeling like a burden — unworthy of seeking assistance.

Esther, it’s been a wild ride. The emotional roller coaster, set on a broken track, was headed for a cliff at age 30. But miraculously, it came to a halt.

Letting Go and Starting the Healing Journey

You were there through the PTSD, anxiety, bulimia, and depression — and I applaud you for sticking by my side. But it’s time to let you go.

My younger self, whom I couldn’t save from unfortunate events or give a better life, I’m sorry. You put up walls to protect me, even if they hurt in the process. Thank you for holding on when I was ready to give up.

Taking Charge of My Life and Moving Forward

I’m ready to take charge now. I will focus on healing the present and future me in your memory. When you read this, I will have parted from the parts of my subconsciousness that held me back.

Know this: You are not alone. I’ve fixed the roller coaster track before leaving, so the journey ahead is filled with happy memories that will keep coming back.

And always remember, you are and have always been enough.

— Haira Esther Kang

You’re Not Alone Here’s Why Video Calls Make You So Anxious

Living with Video Call Anxiety During the Pandemic

It’s been a year into the COVID-19 pandemic, and while many people are experiencing “Zoom fatigue,” there are some people like me who get anxious while using video chat platforms. Seeing myself constantly in real-time makes me more critical of myself.

It’s similar to having negative emotional feelings when seeing myself in a mirror. Rather than listening to the speaker in the meeting, I’m criticizing my appearance and pointing out my flaws. Sometimes I end up comparing myself to all my beautiful co-workers.

“Am I photogenic enough?”
“Would moving the camera a certain angle help me look more attractive?”

How Video Meetings Trigger Self-Criticism

There’s also heightened self-consciousness with my behavior when there are multiple people to focus on in gallery view. When I speak, I’m unsure if people’s facial expressions and body language are in response to what I said, or if there’s an external factor giving off a negative vibe — such as kids screaming in the background or a pet distracting them.

When there’s silence after a question, it can get nerve-wracking not knowing if people cared about what I said or if my perspective was even clear.

Practical Ways to Reduce Zoom Anxiety

To help combat these issues, you can change the Zoom view to only show the person who is speaking. This way, you don’t see the row or column of people to compare yourself to.

You can also:

• Turn off your camera or minimize the Zoom screen
• Use audio-only mode to reduce visual pressure
• Let your supervisor know if you’re feeling anxiety or Zoom fatigue — communication is key
• Arrange meeting times that work best for your schedule, especially if you have kids at home
• Schedule breaks between meetings to stretch, eat a snack, or pet your dog or cat

Shifting Your Focus During Video Calls

Select positive memories to replay in your mind rather than focusing on the negative ones. You can also ask co-workers and supervisors for feedback on your comments or presentations after a video conference.

The more positive participation you have, the easier the experience will become.

Source: Stanford News — Four causes of Zoom fatigue solutions

What You Don’t See About Racism Until It Happens to You

Born American, Bullied for Being Asian: My Story of Racism and Resilience

Growing Up American but Seen as “Other”

Even though I was born in the U.S. and consider myself American, I was bullied in middle school for being Asian. I felt like a banana or a Twinkie—white and Americanized on the inside, but with yellow skin and Asian physical features on the outside.

Usually, bullying stops as kids mature, and I hadn’t experienced much racism since my teens. But I never imagined that in my late 20s, I would be afraid to go outside in the country I call home.

The Rise of Anti-Asian Hate Crimes During COVID-19

Like many other Asian American and Pacific Islanders (AAPI), I experienced xenophobia in the early months of the COVID-19 pandemic in March 2020. I was spat on and called names like “corona,” “Chinese virus,” and “Chinese f*cker” while walking my dog or going for a run.

The rise in anti-Asian hate crimes became undeniable. In early 2021, violence targeted vulnerable groups such as the elderly and women:

• Vicha Ratanapakdee, 84, was shoved to the ground and later died from his injuries.
• Noel Quintana was slashed across the face after asking someone to stop kicking his bag.
• Several Asian women were murdered in the Atlanta spa shooting.

According to reports, hate crimes against Asians increased 1,900% from 2019 to the first half of 2020.

Taking Action: How We Can Stand Against AAPI Racism

President Biden signed a Presidential Memorandum to combat racism against the AAPI community. But lasting change also requires micro-level actions:

• Volunteer to walk seniors in vulnerable neighborhoods.
• Stand guard to protect neighbors.
• Speak up as a bystander and report hate crimes.
• Check in with your AAPI friends.
• Raise awareness on social media.
• Advocate for inclusion in the workplace.
• Contact elected officials to address racial discrimination.

Standing in solidarity is not just about supporting the AAPI community—it’s about working toward ending racial injustice for all People of Color (POC).

Honoring Asian Contributions to America

While we face unprecedented times, I hope we also recognize the contributions of Asian Americans to the U.S., including:

• Labor & Industry: Chinese workers built the transcontinental railroad; Filipino farmers provided essential labor; Japanese immigrants worked in sugarcane fields.
• Cuisine & Culture: Taiwanese boba, Japanese sushi, Filipino adobo, Korean BBQ, Vietnamese banh mi.
• Entertainment: K-pop, K-dramas, anime, manga.
• Innovation & Products: Japanese cars, Korean technology, “Made in China” goods.
• Health & Wellness: Herbal medicine, acupuncture.

A Call for Humanity and Hope

I hope people humanize the struggles of POC who have battled racial discrimination while seeking a better life. Like the Year of the Ox, may we keep moving forward—bringing positive change, safety, and prosperity for all.

Sources

https://www.qchron.com/editions/queenswide/anti-asian-hate-crime-jumps-1-900-percent/article_f007a05b-f43e-54ca-a3c6-1b5493333dea.html

https://www.whitehouse.gov/briefing-room/presidential-actions/2021/01/26/memorandum-condemning-and-combating-racism-xenophobia-and-intolerance-against-asian-americans-and-pacific-islanders-in-the-united-states/

https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2021/02/26/anti-asian-violence-oakland

https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2021-03-02/an-asian-american-family-in-o-c-was-being-harassed-now-their-neighbors-stand-guard

The Hidden Power of Fear: Why It’s Not Your Enemy, But Your Teacher

Our First Taste of Fear: From Birth to Bold Decisions

We come into this world screaming and crying—bewildered by new surroundings and heightened senses. Our warm, quiet home becomes a distant memory. That moment is our very first taste of fear.

Fear floods our minds when we consider doing something bold, even as simple as ordering your usual at Starbucks. It widens your imagination, making irrational scenarios seem possible. These wild fears mix with rational thoughts, making it nearly impossible to tell them apart. Fear can be wicked and relentless.

How Fear Protects Us and Sometimes Holds Us Back

Fear stops us from standing too close to a platform edge or venturing into dark alleys late at night. It keeps us vigilant and shields us from danger. Yet, this hyper-vigilance sometimes breeds paranoia—looking over your shoulder only to see your own shadow. Fear blurs the line between reality and imagination.

During the COVID-19 pandemic, fear positively impacted society: people wore masks and stayed home to protect others. Fear of hurting others created empathy—an unexpected gift from an emotion we often try to avoid.

Fear as an Overprotective Guardian: The Cost of Avoiding Failure

Fear is like an overprotective mother—good intentions but poor execution. It keeps us sheltered, inexperienced, and terrified of failure. Fear convinces us that failure is awful and must be avoided. But failure is an essential speed bump on the road to success—full of invaluable lessons that build strength and resilience. These lessons remind us why we began our journey.

Peeling Back Fear’s Veil to See Clearly

Fear acts like a veil, fuzzing the image of what’s truly in front of us. Stepping away from fear means peeling back that veil to see clearly—no “what ifs” or outlandish scenarios—just the simple reality of the task at hand.

We need to reassure fear that it’s going to be okay. By understanding and acknowledging fear, we can still do the damn thing anyway. You don’t need to be fearless to succeed—you just need to be aware.

My Journey: How Fear Stopped Me for 26 Years—and How I’m Moving Forward

Fear held me back from pursuing a writing career for 26 years. It terrified me so much that I lied to myself about what I truly love and sought validation from others instead of myself. It took hardships to reach a place where failure no longer scares me and societal validation no longer controls me.

I rushed through the speed bumps, damaging my car trying to reach the finish line without reflecting on why I started. But those bumps made me who I am today, and I’m eternally thankful for their lessons.

This is me telling my fear: I’m going to be okay. And I’m ready for whatever comes next on this journey.

Gibson: The Journey to Loving Her Natural Self

Uncover how celebrating your real self can shift your mindset and make you unstoppable. When we first connected with Gibson back in July 2020 for a FaceTime photoshoot, the world was still learning to adapt to new ways of connecting. Even through a virtual lens, Gibson’s radiant natural beauty shone brightly. Her authenticity left us eager for the day we could capture her in person.

Fast forward to today—Gibson is now in Los Angeles, where we recently had the honor of photographing her, celebrating her natural beauty, soft curves, and undeniable confidence. As a Bare Model, Gibson embodies the spirit of OBARE—embracing her body exactly as it is: her naturally gifted curves, her cellulite she proudly celebrates, and her freckles that add to her beauty.

“It’s just part of who I am,” Gibson says with a smile. “I’ve learned to love every inch of my body.”

Embracing Your Natural Beauty

Q: How do you feel about your curves and cellulite?
“I’ve learned to love every inch of my body. Curves, cellulite, and all—it’s part of what makes me unique. Being a Bare Model helped me embrace my natural shape and feel confident in front of the camera.”

Q: Freckles are part of your signature look. How do you feel about them?

‍“My freckles are part of what makes me unique. They remind me that beauty isn’t about perfection—it’s about embracing what makes you different.”

Q: How has being photographed changed your perspective on self-love?
“Being photographed unfiltered, without makeup, helped me realize that confidence comes from self-acceptance. It’s about loving the skin you’re in—not changing yourself to fit someone else’s idea of beauty.”

Gibson's mindset now fuels her unapologetic approach to her curves, her cellulite, and all the features that make her feel like the best version of herself.

Gibson's Advice for Women

Gibson “Don’t try to hide what makes you unique. Celebrate it. Whether it’s cellulite, freckles, or curves, loving yourself as you are is the first step to true confidence.”

Why Gibson Inspires Us

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Gibson’s story is one of transformation. Her journey from uncertainty to radical self-love is inspiring. The media over celebrates artificial beauty, but women like Gibson inspire us to love our own natural beauty—without filters, without shame, and without hesitation. She reminds us that beauty isn’t about perfection—it’s about authenticity.

Find Gibson on Instagram @itsgibsonross.

Why Cellulite Is Normal: A Self-Love Advocate’s Perspective

We asked Bella, a body-image and self-care influencer on social media, to share her thoughts on society’s beauty standards and how women are made to feel flawed. This is what she had to say.

Q&A: Bella on Body Image and Cellulite

How did society influence your perception of your body?

I used to hide my cellulite. ⁣I used to want to remove it. ⁣I used to use creams and lotions to get rid of it. I used to cover my legs with a towel as I walked down the beach. I used to excessively exercise to make it go away. ⁣I used to bawl my eyes out every time I caught a glimpse of my legs in the mirror. ⁣I used to be consumed by the thoughts and views of society. I thought I was flawed, ugly and disgusting.

How do you feel about cellulite now?

I don’t have to angle, flex, or distort my body in order to show my cellulite. I always have cellulite. I can’t hide it when I want to. It is a part of who I am. This is my reality. This is most people’s reality. This is my normal. So stop telling women that cellulite is not normal! ⁣

Now when I look at my cellulite I see it for what it truly is.⁣ Beauty.⁣ Love.⁣ Acceptable.⁣ Normality.⁣ Strength.⁣ Self-love.

What message do you have for other women about body acceptance?

You should not be ashamed of your cellulite! It doesn’t matter your weight, size, or shape—we all have cellulite. It doesn’t matter if people have more or less than you, cellulite is normal. I’m sick of hearing cellulite being labeled as a “flaw.” How can something that over 95% of women have be a flaw!

This is my body. It is not a flawed body. It is just a body.⁣⁣ Skin doesn’t need smoothing. Skin is supposed to be textured.⁣⁣ Lumps and bumps don’t need removing. They make me unique.⁣⁣ Stop hating your body and obsessing over every little bump, roll, lump, fat, mark, and scar. All the things you hate about yourself are things we all have! Your body is perfect! Your cellulite is beautiful. Your body doesn’t need changing, society does!

How does being a body image influencer, influence your perspective?

Being a woman has taught me to embrace my natural body fully, including my cellulite. I no longer hide, I no longer apologize for my curves, and I feel empowered knowing my body represents real beauty for all women.

For more inspiration from Bella Davis, follow her on Instagram: @BellaDavis

She Chose Herself — And Found Love for Her Body and Music

Romy Dya Opens Up About Her Self-Love Journey and Upcoming Song Release

At 33, Romy Dya is a mom of two, an artist, songwriter, producer, and entrepreneur from the Netherlands. Her journey toward self-love has been long and winding, filled with struggles, revelations, and ultimately, empowerment.

"I’ve always struggled with loving myself. People around me always told me I was fat and I used to be so ashamed of myself. I was never the skinniest girl and I always had wide hips and big thighs… after my two pregnancies I got stretch marks, more cellulite, and loose skin around my stomach."

Facing the Mirror and the Music Scene

Romy’s earliest memories of body insecurity were intertwined with constant judgment—from others and herself. In the music scene, where appearance and talent are constantly tested, she felt the pressure deeply.

"I couldn’t even look in the mirror because I really ‘hated’ the way my body looked, especially my stomach. I always thought people would look at me and say hurtful things… in the music scene, you constantly have to prove yourself."

Even at her skinniest, after losing a lot of weight a few years ago, happiness didn’t come. Attention and compliments couldn’t fill the void—Romy realized that true happiness had to start from within.

"I began to do some soul searching and realized that happiness starts from within. I had to face traumatic experiences from the past and process everything and forgive myself."

Choosing Herself and Following Her Heart

The turning point came in 2018, after ending a 12-year relationship. She chose herself over staying in a partnership that no longer served her, booking a last-minute flight to Los Angeles to pursue her music.

"Going to LA was the best choice I’ve ever made in my life, because that’s when I finally started to love myself cause I chose me."

Romy faced challenges and setbacks, including rock-bottom moments over the next two years. Yet, she learned to meditate, trust her intuition, and practice self-kindness. Slowly, she became her own best friend.

"Because since I looked in front of the mirror and started telling myself: ‘you’re strong, you’re beautiful and you got this’ my life started to change in a good way."

Embracing Body Positivity and Art

Romy has learned to truly honor and celebrate her body.

"I now see my stretch marks and cellulite as art, a testament to my journey rather than flaws to hide. Loving myself has nothing to do with changing my body—it’s about accepting and celebrating who I am, exactly as I am."

Her approach is rooted in self-love and authenticity, not approval or validation from anyone else. Romy’s message is clear: embracing your natural body is empowering, and self-confidence comes from within.

Finding Music and Self-Love

Alongside embracing her body, Romy’s music has been a lifeline. She first shared a song for OBARE, formerly known as SMV, back in 2020, and now she’s releasing her new single on August 29, 2025, celebrating her journey of self-love and empowerment.

Here's another sneak peek of her new song.

Romy’s story proves that choosing yourself—emotionally, physically, and creatively—can transform your life. She continues to inspire women to embrace themselves fully and follow their passions unapologetically.

"Here is a beautiful song Romy wrote for OBARE, formerly known as SMV, back in 2020.

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A Journey of Embracing Stretch Marks, Cellulite, and Self-Love

My Journey with Stretch Marks and Cellulite

My journey with stretch marks and cellulite began in middle school — during what should have been carefree days of adolescence. I was the kid who could eat anything without gaining a pound, but everything changed in eighth grade. A family spring break trip to Mexico led to a sudden 15-pound weight gain, concentrated mostly on my hips and thighs.

With that change came stretch marks and cellulite.

I remember asking my mom when they would go away. Her answer was simple: never. At the time, I didn’t understand that these marks were simply part of growing up. To me, they felt like unwelcome intrusions on my body, but over the years, I learned they were a normal part of my story — something connecting me to countless other women who had been through the same changes.

Embracing Self-Expression

During the COVID-19 pandemic, when the future of photography and self-expression seemed uncertain, I explored a new way to tell my story. A FaceTime photoshoot became a liberating experience — a chance to capture beauty in a raw, unfiltered way from home. Later, after moving to LA, I dove into a photoshoot that celebrated this transformation. It wasn’t just about creating stunning images — it was about honoring every mark and dimple, reflecting the evolution of my personal journey.

Redefining Beauty

Society often portrays stretch marks and cellulite as flaws. But I’ve learned they are not imperfections to hide — they are symbols of resilience, connection, and the human experience. These marks tell a story. They speak of growth, change, and living fully.

The Lesson of Kindness

One crucial lesson I’ve learned is to treat myself with the same kindness I offer others. When I look in the mirror, I imagine speaking to someone I care deeply about. Would I criticize them for a dimple or a blemish? No — I’d highlight their beauty. I’ve learned to speak kindly to myself, focusing on strengths rather than flaws.

No one notices the tiny dimple on your thigh except you;

they’re too busy admiring your smile, your confidence, and the joy you radiate. That double chin when you laugh? It’s proof of happiness. Those marks on your skin? They are part of your story.

Embracing the Journey

This journey of self-acceptance is ongoing, just like our bodies. Embrace your moments of vulnerability as opportunities for growth. Self-worth is not defined by appearance, but by the kindness, confidence, and authenticity you bring into the world. Step into your power and let your natural beauty shine, ladies!

Find Gibson on instagram: @itsgibsonross.

Stretch Marks Tell a Beautiful Story: 7 Reasons to Love Your Body

Stretch marks tell a beautiful story about your body that is extremely unique to you! They show that our bodies are capable of surviving incredible change.

Here are 7 reasons you should embrace and love your stretch marks:

1. Everyone Has Them

No matter your weight, height, size, or body shape, everyone has stretch marks!

2. They Are Incredibly Cute

3. Our Bodies Are Meant to Change

Our bodies are supposed to change, and the changes our bodies go through are incredible! From puberty to rapid muscle growth to pregnancy, the female body is something to be celebrated—it’s truly amazing!

4. They Come in Different Colors and Sizes

Stretch marks come in a range of colors and sizes!

5. Each Stretch Mark Is Unique

Each stretch mark is unique to you!

6. Gaining Weight Isn’t Shameful

Gaining weight doesn’t make you any less beautiful or worthy. Your weight does not define you!

7. They Are Artwork of Your Body

Nobody’s stretch marks look the same—they are your own personal, unique artwork! Your body is a beautiful canvas, and every stretch mark is a work of art.

Stretch marks are normal, natural, and beautiful!

They deserve to be celebrated and embraced. Stretch marks are a daily reminder that our bodies are incredible and capable of some really cool things! Give your stretch marks some extra love today—they deserve it!

For more inspiration from Bella Davis, follow her on Instagram: @BellaDavis

You’re Not Lazy—You’re Just Missing This One Habit That Changes Everything

When You Keep Breaking Promises to Yourself

Have you ever said you were going to do something—but didn’t follow through?
Maybe you brushed it off, pretended like it never happened… and then it happened again.
Before you know it, you’re making promises that aren’t true and failing to follow through on the commitments you made to yourself or others.

Then you tell someone your plan, and they just give you that look—
“Yeah, right. I’ve heard you say that a hundred times, and I still haven’t seen it happen.”
Suddenly, you wonder why they don’t trust you.
It doesn’t feel like you’ve done anything wrong, yet the doubt in their eyes stings.

Why It’s So Easy to Walk Away From Accountability

At that point, most of us think, Forget it… I’m not even going to try to fix this mess.
We walk away, leave the promise behind, and pretend it never existed.
But here’s the truth: messes don’t clean themselves up.

There’s something to be accountable for here.
When you don’t do what you said you would do, the impact is that no one believes you until they see you follow through.
The only way to rebuild that trust—internally and externally—is to become your word.

Whether it’s speaking up when something bothers you, losing weight, saving money, or embracing the skin you’re in—you can become your word.

How Not Keeping Your Word Hurts Your Self-Trust

When you don’t follow through, that little voice in your head whispers: Just forget it. Move on.
This is where so many of us get stuck.

We stop pursuing the things that matter—the ones that fill our self-love cup.
We lose the ability to know ourselves as our word, and that loss ripples into every area of life.

When you’re not your word:

• You avoid doing the small things you know would make you feel better.
• You stall on goals that could transform your life.
• You feel disconnected from your own power.

What It Means to “Become Your Word”

Imagine yourself as someone who:

• Does what they say they’ll do.
• Follows through on commitments—big and small.
• Meets expectations (even the ones no one else sees).

What would be available to you?
What would your world look like if you were always known for keeping your promises?

Now imagine taking it further—honoring your word even with your secret dreams.
Those “I wish I could but I can’t” thoughts? They stop holding you back when you become your word with them, too.

The Self-Love Connection

The secret to living a powerful life, loving the skin you’re in, and being proud of who you are starts here: Be your word in everything you do.

You don’t have to commit to things you don’t want to do.
But when you want something, you tend to put your word on it. That’s where it all begins.

When you honor your word, you:

• Strengthen your relationship with yourself.
• Build trust with others.
• Open doors to opportunities and relationships you didn’t think possible.

Staying on the Path Without Self-Judgment

Don’t make yourself wrong when you mess up—it will only pull you backward.
This is a discovery process.
Mistakes will happen, but over time, you’ll see that living as your word brings a deeper peace than the alternative.

It takes time.
It takes perseverance.
It takes patience.

But the payoff is priceless.

What about you?
In what area of life are you ready to become someone known for keeping their word?

I’d love to hear your journey—connect with me on Instagram @ambersabourin.

It’s not your body that’s the problem — it’s the story you’ve been told about it. Here’s how to flip the script for good.

Why We Believe Our Bodies Aren’t Good Enough

I believe that society has long told us that our bodies aren’t “good enough.”
As women, we’ve been pushed to seek validation and acceptance, pressured to achieve an almost unattainable body type just to be considered “normal” in this world.

Over time, these misconceptions become our inner reality. We start to bully our own bodies — convincing ourselves we’re not worthy of love, happiness, or acceptance.

But let’s get one thing straight: we are all worthy.

The Cycle of Negative Self-Talk Ends Here

That stops now.
We do not have to live in negativity or measure our worth by impossible standards. Our bodies are already doing extraordinary things for us every single day — and they deserve our appreciation, not our criticism.

5 Daily Affirmations to Love and Honor Your Body

Here are five powerful affirmations every woman should say to herself:

1. I vow to love myself in my entirety.
2. I will appreciate everything my body does for me on the inside without needing to ask it.
3. I will acknowledge my negative thoughts, understand what they’re trying to tell me, and address them head-on—rather than suppressing them and opening bigger wounds.
4. I will be more accepting of my vulnerabilities, as this will only make me stronger.
5. I will continue to show up, speak up, and do better for myself.

A Journey Toward Self-Love

Loving yourself isn’t about perfection. It’s about showing up for yourself every day, even in small ways. These affirmations aren’t just words — they’re commitments.

Say them out loud. Write them down. Let them become the truth you live by.

Please join me on this beautiful journey to loving yourself ❤ Find Sophie on IG @sophthickfitness

Here’s how to break the cycle: Own your choices, and step into the person you’ve always imagined

How to Break Free from Your Past and Choose a New Way of Being

Born Pure, Shaped by Our Stories

We are born into the world as nothing—pure, innocent beings who have yet to become someone. Over time, we’re raised with the principles and values of our family, carrying the weight of many generations before us. Life experiences—both joyful and painful—shape us into the people we are today: the good, the bad, and the in-between.

How Family Shapes—and Sometimes Limits—Us

Many of us notice traits we’ve inherited from our families. Some of us conform to those ways, while others rebel and create an opposite path. Some use family history as motivation to break cycles and forge new ways of being, while others feel compelled to repeat the past.

The truth? We have the power to decide what continues and what ends. Our present and future do not have to mirror the past.

Breaking the Cycle Starts with Awareness

If we want change, we must first see how the past has served us—both positively and negatively. Without this awareness, the cycle continues.

For me, one defining trait is stubbornness. Growing up, I often got my way, and now I do whatever it takes to achieve what I want. This determination can make me a force of nature—but it can also lead people to agree with me for the wrong reasons. When that happens, I ask myself: Do I want to carry this forward, or is there an opportunity to choose differently?

Choosing a New Way of Being

Growth means identifying which traits serve us—and which ones don’t. It means giving ourselves permission to change, even when others resist. Friends and family may take longer to accept our transformation, and that’s okay.

When challenges arise, remember why you chose this new way of being. Think about what you’re creating for yourself and the people you love.

Your Past Does Not Define You

The way you’ve become doesn’t have to be the way you remain. You can choose to be someone new—today, tomorrow, and always. Go forward boldly, free from the limitations of your past.

Love Always,
Amberly - @ambersabourin

Need Inspiration? These Classic Movies Will Keep You Glued to Your TV

You’re scrolling through your feed, drained and uninspired — but what if one film could flip the script tonight? These handpicked movies don’t just entertain; they spark a fire inside you. Get ready to binge the stories that’ll make you rethink, feel deeply, and maybe even change your life. Grab your popcorn — this is your reboot.

1) Dor

Storyline

One reviewer explains the storyline: "Shankar Singh and his wife, Meera, live in Jodhpur, Rajasthan, India, along with their widowed paternal grandmother, Laxmibai, his mother, Gowri, and father, Randhir. The family feels blessed after Meera's entry into their lives. Shankar must travel abroad to Saudi Arabia, bidding farewell to Meera with a promise to stay in touch. He keeps this promise, sending a large portion of his earnings to help pay off the family's debts. However, when they receive no word from him, a worried Meera calls and is devastated to learn that Shankar has been killed by being thrown from a 10th-floor balcony. Her status quickly changes: her jewelry, ornaments, and fancy clothes are taken away, and she is told to remain indoors, wear dark clothes, and only pray at a Mandir. Things start to brighten for Meera when she befriends an Islamic woman, Zeenat, who has come from Himachal Pradesh to search for her husband, Amir Khan. Shortly thereafter, Meera's world is turned upside down when..."

Written by rAjOo (gunwanti@hotmail.com)
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‍2) The Waitress

Storyline

A film by: Adrienne Shelly

Jenna (Russell), a small-town waitress with big dreams, possesses an uncanny gift for baking out-of-this-world pies. Her secret ambition is to win a $25,000 contest so she can leave her obnoxious husband, open her own pie shop, and transform her life. A chance meeting with a handsome newcomer to town might just provide the right ingredients for Jenna to find true happiness.

(Source: The Waitress)

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‍3) Bridges of Madison County

Storyline

World-traveling National Geographic photographer Robert Kincaid and Iowa housewife Francesca Johnson aren’t looking to turn their lives upside down. Each is at a point in life where expectations are behind them. Yet, four days after they meet, neither wants to let go of the love they’ve found.

(Source: Bridges of Madison County)

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4) The Color Purple

Storyline

One reviewer says, "This film follows the life of Celie, a young black girl growing up in the early 1900's. The first time we see Celie, she is 14 - and pregnant - by her father. We stay with her for the next 30 years of her tough life." - Written by Colin Tinto <cst@imdb.com>

(source: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088939/ )

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‍5) Terms of Endearment

Storyline

One reviewer says, "Aurora and Emma are mother and daughter who march to different drummers. Beginning with Emma's marriage, Aurora shows how difficult and loving she can be. The movie covers several years of their lives as each finds different reasons to go on living and find joy. Aurora's interludes with Garrett Breedlove, a retired astronaut and next-door neighbor, are quite striking. In the end, different people show their love in very different ways."— Written by John Vogel jlvogel@comcast.net(Source: IMDB)

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‍6) Erin Brokovich

Storyline

One reviewer says, "Erin Brockovich-Ellis is an unemployed single mother, desperate to find a job but having no luck. Her losing streak extends to a failed lawsuit against a doctor from a car accident she was in. With no alternative, she successfully browbeats her lawyer into giving her a job as compensation for the loss. Despite her trashy clothes and earthy manners causing others to dismiss her, that soon changes when she begins investigating a suspicious real estate case involving the Pacific Gas & Electric Company. She discovers that the company is quietly buying land contaminated by hexavalent chromium, a deadly toxic waste they are improperly dumping and poisoning the local residents. As Erin digs deeper, she becomes the leading force in one of the biggest class action lawsuits in American history against a multi-billion-dollar corporation."— Written by Kenneth Chisholm kchishol@execulink.com(Source: IMDB)

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8) Amelie

Storyline

One reviewer says, "Amélie is a story about a girl named Amélie whose childhood was overshadowed by her father's mistaken concerns about a heart defect. These concerns led to Amélie having minimal real-life contact with others, causing her to retreat into a fantastical world of her own dreams of love and beauty. As a young woman, she moves to central Paris and works as a waitress. After finding a lost treasure belonging to a former occupant of her apartment, she decides to return it to him. Witnessing his reaction and newfound perspective inspires her to dedicate her life to the people around her, including her father, who is obsessed with his garden gnome; a failed writer; a hypochondriac; a man who stalks his ex-girlfriends; a 'ghost'; a suppressed young soul; the love of her life; and a man with brittle bones. However, as she becomes consumed by these escapades, she realizes that she is neglecting her own life and jeopardizing her quest for love."— Written by spragg_s(Source: IMDB)

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‍9) Cries and Whispers

Storyline

One reviewer says, "In turn-of-the-century Sweden, cancer-stricken, dying Agnes is visited in her isolated rural mansion by her sisters Karin and Maria. As Agnes' condition deteriorates and pain management becomes increasingly more difficult, fear and revulsion grip the sisters, who seem incapable of empathy, and Agnes' only comfort and solace comes from her maid Anna. As the end draws closer, long repressed feelings of grudging resentment and mistrust cause jealousy, selfishness, and bitterness between the siblings to surface." Written by duke1029

(Source: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0069467/ )

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‍10) Juno

Storyline

One reviewer says, "A tale told over four seasons, starting in autumn when Juno, a 16-year-old high-school junior in Minnesota, discovers she's pregnant after one event in a chair with her best friend, Bleeker. In the waiting room of an abortion clinic, the quirky and whip-sharp Juno decides to give birth and to place the child with an adoptive couple. She finds one in the PennySaver personals, contacts them, tells her dad and step-mother, and carries on with school. The chosen parents, upscale yuppies (one of whom is cool and laid back, the other meticulous and uptight), meet Juno, sign papers, and the year unfolds. Will Juno's plan work, can she improvise, and what about Bleeker?" Written by <jhailey@hotmail.com>

(Source: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0467406/?ref_=tt_sims_tti )

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‍13) Eat, Pray, Love

Storyline

Sony Pictures says, "Liz Gilbert (Roberts) had everything a modern woman is supposed to dream of having - a husband, a house, a successful career - yet like so many others, she found herself lost, confused, and searching for what she really wanted in life. Newly divorced and at a crossroads, Gilbert steps out of her comfort zone, risking everything to change her life, embarking on a journey around the world that becomes a quest for self-discovery. In her travels, she discovers the true pleasure of nourishment by eating in Italy; the power of prayer in India, and, finally and unexpectedly, the inner peace and balance of true love in Bali." Written by Sony Pictures

(Source: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0879870/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1 )

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You Can Walk Away From Anyone Except the Person in the Mirror

The Hardest Relationship You’ll Ever Have Is With Yourself

"The hardest relationship one will ever have is with themselves, because you can never walk away from it."

You can’t walk away from yourself when you feel ashamed of your actions. You can’t escape when you’re drowning in guilt or regret.

This is where the Universal Law of Correspondence comes alive: your outer world is nothing more than a reflection of your inner world. As within, so without.

Arriving at this truth can feel both liberating and terrifying. Because once you see it, you can no longer blame others for what is born within.

Why We Keep Attracting the Wrong People

Without this truth, women often struggle to solve the painful pattern of attracting the wrong men—or people, period.

Years of failed relationships—ranging from fleeting situationships to deeply committed but emotionally wounding partnerships—leave beautiful, intelligent, well-intentioned women carrying invisible scars.

Each breakup leaves the heart a little more bruised, a little more defeated. Emotional pain isn’t as visible as physical pain, so we carry on, convincing ourselves we’ve “learned our lesson,” and step back into the ring of love hoping this time will be different.

The Illusion of Self-Protection

You may polish your independence, sharpen your intelligence, and wear excellence like armor.
You may pride yourself on spotting red flags from a mile away.
You may project confidence, charm, and wit to hide your insecurities.

Or you may take the opposite route—becoming jaded, resentful, and building walls so high that no one can touch you.

But here’s the truth: none of these defenses will work if they’re rooted in a lack of trust within yourself. Past emotional wounds, left unhealed, will always be triggered again.

My Breaking Point

I know this because I lived it.

Two weeks shy of my 30th birthday, I faced the heartbreak that finally broke me. No amount of pride or resilience could pull me off the floor. I cycled through anger, self-pity, resentment, and grief, searching desperately for a new formula.

What I found instead was a pattern:

• I had subconsciously attracted emotionally detached men for over a decade.
• Every unhealed wound I buried had manifested in my relationships.
• My fear of true vulnerability had mirrored back to me in their emotional distance.

And the more I had expected this last relationship to heal me, the deeper the devastation when it ended.

The Connection Between Self-Love and Heartbreak

When someone has gaping, unhealed emotional wounds, they often lean on the love of another to fill them. That was me.

So when the relationship ended, I didn’t just lose him. I lost me.

Self-love isn’t just about affirmations or bubble baths—it’s the North Star that guides you to either peace or chaos. If you cannot fall in love with yourself unconditionally, you cannot expect someone else to.

Why Self-Love Is So Hard

We live in a culture of instant gratification, scrolling through social media feeds that shout, “I’m rich and married!”Success is measured by money and relationships, and the pressure is relentless.

Healing and emotional fulfillment, on the other hand, require patience and deep inner work—two things our culture doesn’t celebrate.

True self-love means:

• Owning your shadow side as much as your best self.
• Cutting cords with what disrupts your peace.
• Letting go of pride to embrace sensitivity.
• Reconnecting with the joy and innocence of your childhood.
• Practicing emotional discipline over emotional distraction.
• Working with your demons instead of letting them control you.

Rising From the Ashes

Lack of failure doesn’t make you invincible. Getting back up does.

Self-love is the hardest love you’ll ever experience because you’re always evolving. You will make mistakes. You will regret things. Others will hurt you, and you’ll have to fight to forgive.

But there’s no star in the galaxy that shines brighter than the one within you.

You are worthy of your own light.
Allow it to shine.

As within, so without.

3 Simple Daily Habits to Boost Self-Love and Confidence

‍Everyone struggles with self-love. It’s sad but inevitable—we all face moments where getting out of bed feels impossible, let alone reminding ourselves how amazing we are.

But here’s what often goes unnoticed: self-love doesn’t have to be a grand gesture. It can be built through small, intentional habits woven into your daily routine. These moments of self-care not only lift your mood and self-image, but also create healthy patterns you can pass on to those you love.

Below are three simple, powerful habits that can help you nurture self-love every single day.

1. Thank the Earth for Waking You to See Another Day

Waking up each morning is something most of us take for granted—but not everyone gets that gift. Practicing morning gratitude can be as simple as:

• Making your bed
• Doing light stretches
• Reading a chapter of your favorite book

Taking a moment to feel grateful for another sunrise reminds you to slow down and appreciate life—and yourself—before the day sweeps you away.

2. Dedicate Time to Your Passions

Life’s hustle often pulls us away from the things that make our hearts soar. You might have a job that looks great on paper, but leaves little room for your creativity or joy.

Even dedicating 30 minutes to something you love—whether it’s going for a jog, cooking a new recipe, or learning embroidery—can recharge your spirit. Passions bring color back into a dull routine and give you something to look forward to.

3. Take Time to Truly Wind Down

It’s tempting to collapse straight into bed after a long day, but a mindful nighttime routine can help you release the day’s stress and prepare for restful sleep.

Try:

• Listening to calming music while brushing your teeth
• Sipping chamomile tea as you unwind
• Lighting a candle or burning incense (safely)

When you give yourself space to relax, you wake up with a clearer mind and a lighter heart.

Self-love isn’t selfish—it’s balance.
These small acts may seem simple, but their impact builds over time. When you thank the day, honor your passions, and give yourself permission to rest, you create a life rooted in self-respect and joy.

What if you stopped fighting your body and started listening to it? These 7 steps show you how

The Secret Struggle of Body Hatred

Hating your body can become a dirty secret—one you carry silently.
Those thoughts about your body can pull you under like a whirlpool, robbing you of joy in the little and big moments of life.

I know this because I’ve been there.
I’ve also walked many of my clients out of this whirlpool of pain. Pain that distracts them from their children, passions, work, and play—focusing their attention on one thing alone: their bodies.

Why Body Hatred Isn’t Just “Your Fault”

Body hatred isn’t born in a vacuum. It’s culturally encouraged. We live in a world with so many forces conspiring against body acceptance.
But here’s what I know: when we change our relationship with our bodies, we reclaim our power. We become more creative, open, and joyful.

What follows is my roadmap. It’s unconventional. Some ideas may be brand new to you. But I promise—this works.

1. Squash the Dirty Secret

Secrets eat us alive from the inside.
Letting negative body thoughts swirl in your mind is poison.
Instead, speak or write them out with brutal honesty.

Example:

“I hate my stomach. Why is it so fat? Why do my arms look like this? I literally want to throw up when I look in the mirror.”

Get them out of your head. Talk to a therapist, a friend, a coach, or write them down. There’s freedom in releasing the thoughts you’ve kept locked up.

2. Become an Observer of Your Thoughts

Mindfulness means noticing your thoughts without becoming them.
Write them down. Look at the words on the page. Feel the distance between you and those thoughts.
You are not your thoughts—you are the one observing them.

3. Accept Before You Try to Love

When a negative thought appears, name it:

“I’m judging my body right now.”
“I do not like my body right now.”

This is acceptance—not resistance.
You don’t need to force “I love my body” if you don’t believe it. The truth, accepted without judgment, creates space for change.

4. Question the Fear Behind Acceptance

You might think:

“If I accept hating my body, won’t it make me hate it more?”

Close your eyes. Ask yourself:

“Can I know for certain that accepting my body hatred will make it worse?”

Acceptance isn’t giving up—it’s loosening the grip of the fight.

5. The Whirlpool Visualization

Visualize yourself fighting to escape a whirlpool.
Feel the exhaustion. Now imagine letting go—accepting the moment.
Notice what happens.
Often, acceptance is what carries you gently to shore.

6. Find the Deeper Gift

Ask:

“What is my relationship with my body here to teach me?”

Possible gifts:

• Learning to eat in a way that makes you feel good, not to please others.
• Practicing unconditional self-acceptance.
• Strengthening intuition and self-connection.
• Setting and honoring boundaries.
• Remembering you are worthy exactly as you are.
• Stepping into your full power.

7. Heal the Deeper Roots

For many, body hatred is tied to childhood wounds.
Inner child work and breathwork can reconnect you with the younger self who still feels fear or unworthiness—and remind her she is safe.

The Real Goal

Loving your body 100% of the time isn’t the point.
The goal is to change your relationship with the thoughts.
To respond with awareness, not as a victim.
That’s empowerment.

I’d love to hear your story.
Send me a message on Instagram @soulintheraw.

With love,

Marina|Transformational Coach

How Writing Helped Me While Caring for Aging Parents with Cancer and COPD

Writing has always been therapeutic for me. When life wreaks havoc, I turn to writing to process my emotions and find calm. Three weeks ago, my mom’s oncologist told us the cancer had returned, and she needs more aggressive chemotherapy. Meanwhile, my dad battles COPD, on oxygen 18 hours a day and a nebulizer 6 hours daily. He takes many medications and, stubborn as a goat, resists sometimes.

Embracing the Role of Caregiver — But How Do I Care for Myself?

I’m learning to embrace my role as my parents’ caregiver, but the harder task is taking care of me while taking care of them. Many caregivers for aging parents experience grief — often without realizing it. A parent who was once strong begins asking for help. It seems simple, right? But inside, there’s a knot in our hearts.

The Hidden Grief of Watching Parents Age

We grieve the loss — the loss of function that makes our parents need us. Weren’t they the ones who helped us? Weren’t they the ones in charge? These changes are subtle. I remember watching my parents age normally, occasionally startled by the reality that they were changing. But I never consciously faced the loss and pain. It lived quietly beneath my awareness.

The Exhaustion of Caregiving: Transporting, Medications, and Fighting Insurance

My sister and I walk this journey together — taking turns transporting our parents to doctor appointments, filling and managing meds, cooking and delivering meals, and fighting insurance providers. I find my own energy drained and depleted. My mom, diagnosed with CML leukemia in 2010, has fought hard — nearly dying from chemo side effects, then thriving in a clinical trial. But setbacks come again, not just for her, but for our whole family.

Writing a Will and Facing Inevitable Loss

Just recently, mom asked me to help write her will — something we’d spoken about years ago but never completed. She also asked me to choose items in her home she wanted me to receive after her passing. As she handed me the papers and pointed to things in her basement to load into my car, I felt a wave of unspoken emotions. I kept my strong facade because she needed me, but inside I was shaken by the inevitability of loss.

Understanding Anticipatory Grief vs. Early Grief in Caregiving

I learned the grief I’m feeling is called anticipatory grief — the pain we feel as we prepare for the death of a loved one. But there’s another kind I call early grief — more subtle, creeping, and dangerous if ignored. It builds with small losses: their loss of function and independence, and our loss of their independence. It’s also the loss of our own time — for ourselves, jobs, and children.

Why Early Grief Can Destroy Caregivers’ Health

This quiet grief can damage mental and physical health, sometimes leading to depression. If left unrecognized, it can slowly kill parts of us as we witness loss after loss before death even occurs. Research shows that 30% (or more) of caregivers die before their loved ones. Early grief is a major factor in this tragic statistic.

How Caregivers Can Survive This Season of Life

We need to be friends to ourselves and seek help — professional support or caregiver groups — before we become a number in the statistics. The well of grief is deep, and we must watch so we don’t drown in sorrow before even acknowledging it. Caregivers suffer too, and their grief deserves recognition and compassion.

To all caregivers navigating this difficult season, I send love, light, peace, and prayers. Take care of yourself as fiercely as you care for your loved ones. Stay safe and stay well.

Called a Racial Slur at 7 Years Old: My Journey Through Hate, Fear, and Resilience

At seven years old, the world shattered for me the first time I was called a racial slur — a moment that marked the beginning of my painful awareness of racism. Until then, I thought prejudice was a thing of the past, something from black-and-white movies and old history books. But that day, walking home alone, a hateful word pierced through my childhood innocence and changed everything.

The Day Hate Found Me: A Childhood Memory That Still Stings

Instead of meeting my mom at the school gate like usual, I was told to meet her three blocks down the street — a big step toward independence. Filled with excitement, I walked confidently, imagining the soundtrack of my journey, maybe a TLC or Spice Girls song in my head. But that moment froze when a pickup truck full of boys drove by, yelling a hateful slur at me, their breath hot on my face.

Feeling Alone and Seen: The Pain of Being the ‘Other’

In an instant, every eye on the street locked on me — the only Black child in a sea of white faces. Their silence was deafening. Their stares, piercing. I was invisible one moment and the target the next. The word they shouted wasn’t just a slur; it was a reminder that I was different, marked by a history and prejudice I didn’t understand but felt deeply.

Growing Up Black in a Mostly White World

Growing up, I faced this “otherness” daily — in classrooms, on playgrounds, even in history lessons about slavery where classmates would stare at me, as if trying to understand. Each instance chipped away at my sense of belonging, but I held on to the knowledge my parents gave me: that I was not defined by hateful words.

Healing from Racial Trauma: The Long Road to Strength

It wasn’t until 2020, at 31 years old, that I fully understood the weight of racial trauma. Watching George Floyd’s death unfold triggered a flood of painful memories and emotions — what I now call “POC PTSD episodes.” But unlike before, this time the world stood with us. Millions from every corner of the globe united in protest, offering hope and solidarity I had never seen before.

A Call to Action: Together Toward a More Perfect Union

We still have a long way to go, but I believe in the power of unity, awareness, and action. My story — from that terrifying moment at seven to the global movement in 2020 — is a reminder that we are not alone. Together, we can continue running the marathon toward justice, healing, and belonging.

Loving My Body as a Radical Act: A Reflection on Belonging

In a world where women are constantly told to shrink themselves, loving my body has become one of the most radical acts I can commit.

“She wore ill-fitting clothes to hide her substantial womanliness. Bummi never understood why English women did not show off the outline of their fulsomeness — the more fulsome, the better, so long as it was done with decorum. In her culture, a substantial woman was a desirable one.”
— Bernadine Evaristo, Girl, Woman, Other

Like Bummi, I now believe that the fuller and more shapely a woman is, the better. Unlike her, though, I understand why women in some societies don’t celebrate their shapeliness. Bummi’s Nigerian culture likened fuller breasts, soft stomach, and generous hips to signs of health and beauty — a woman ready to bear fruit.

I share Bummi’s heritage, but I was raised in America, in towns where Black people made up less than 1% of the population. That means over 90% of my perception of beauty, sex appeal, and social acceptance was shaped by the white gaze.

Growing Up Tall, Black, and Full-Bodied in a World That Wanted Me Smaller

I’ve been 6'1" since I was 13 years old, with thighs, hips, and a waistline that didn’t match the beauty ideals around me. For years, I held on to stories that told me my height was “too masculine” and my waist “not small enough.” My body was judged against a standard I never chose.

But recently, I’ve been remembering this truth: my spirit and soul are not tethered to my height, my waist, or my curves. My worth is not measured in inches.

Reclaiming My Body Through Music and Movement

When I press play on my dancehall or afrobeats playlist and my soft, strong, flexible waist winds to the beat, my Blackness — my Africanness — unearths itself.

When my long, thick legs twist and jump in magical, rhythmic succession, I feel the inheritance in my body’s movement. It transcends the low vibration of perfectionism — the kind built on narrow, white, “healthy” ideals.

My Body as Celebration

Loving my body isn’t about reaching a beauty standard. It’s about rejecting one. It’s about embracing the fact that my height, my curves, my strength, and my softness all tell the story of who I am.

My body is glorious simply because it exists. That truth, in itself, is a celebration. And in a world that asks women to make themselves smaller, that celebration is an act of resistance.

~ Nkem [@Naturallyfree123]

Is Your Attachment Sabotaging What You’re Committed To? Discover the Difference and Take Control of Your Life

Are you truly committed to living a life you love — or just attached to the thought of it? This subtle but powerful difference can make or break your journey toward your dreams.

Are You Filling Your Life with What You Love?

Do you actively take steps to fill your days with things that light you up? Are you patient and kind with yourself as you navigate the twists and turns? Commitment means honoring your principles and values, giving yourself the grace to try, fail, and learn.

Attachment vs. Commitment: The Hidden Saboteur of Your Dreams

Many people know what their ideal life looks like — but most are attached only to the idea of it, not the process of making it real. You may envision success, understand the steps to get there, but aren’t acting consistently or with focused momentum. The result? You settle for less than what you want, stuck in a cycle of waiting and wishing.

Ask Yourself: Which Side Are You On?

Are you clinging to the dream or dedicating yourself to the work it takes? Recognizing this is the first step. Then comes the deeper question: Why do you want to be committed? Your “why” is the spark that fuels passion and perseverance, the reason that keeps you going when things get hard.

How Commitment Changes Your Presence and Energy

When you shift from attachment to commitment, people notice. Your actions speak louder than words — they see your drive, your dedication, and the life you’re creating. You stop obsessing over the end goal and start living in the present, energized by your purpose.

Finding Your Why: The Key to Active Commitment

Write down why you choose to live powerfully every day. Make that reason so compelling it drives you “crazy in the best way.” This clarity will make all the difference in staying committed through challenges and breakthroughs alike.

I’d love to connect with you on Instagram, you can find me at @ambersabourin

Much love to you all,

Amberly

What Makes a True Queen: The Power of Women

Redefining the Meaning of a Queen

What makes a true queen is often overlooked and wrongly defined. Traditionally, a queen is seen as the female ruler of an independent nation—usually by marriage to a king. But when it comes to women, the word queen can be misunderstood as an insecure girl with a superiority complex.

The Power of a Queen in Nature and Life

Yet, look closer: in chess, the queen is the most powerful piece. In nature, the queen bee is the mother and leader of the entire colony. These many definitions point to one divine truth—a queen is simply a woman in power.

Why Women Struggle to See Themselves as Queens

As women, it’s often hard to see ourselves as queens because we feel we don’t live up to that name. There are moments when we don’t feel powerful. Moments when the voices of our male counterparts seem louder than our own. Society programs us to be seen but not heard, to believe softness is better than strength—as if the two can’t exist together.

Feminine Power: Strength and Softness Combined

But here’s the truth: women empowerment comes from embracing both. Feminine power is not about choosing strength over softness—it’s about knowing that the two can exist beautifully, side by side.

Women as the Bridge Between Heaven and Earth

Women often forget: we are the bridge between heaven and earth. Some of us bring children earthside, while others build kingdoms from dreams and hope. The truth is, the actions of a queen begin with the mindset of one.

Embrace Your Crown: Self-Love and Confidence

Whether you call yourself a drama queen, a beauty queen, or a queen bee, it’s your right to be the fiercest, most authentic version of yourself. A true queen embraces self-love, body positivity, and confidence.

As queens, we don’t wait for kings to give us our crowns—we make them ourselves.

Daily Habits To Help Keep The Insanity Away: 3 Tips to Start Loving Your Mornings

When the sun comes up, are you the type who says, “Yay! It’s another day, let’s go get it!” or do you roll your eyes and think, “Oh great, here we go again…”? If you’re feeling that second way more often than not, this is especially for you. I’m sharing three simple daily habits that will make your day better, relieve stress, and soon enough, you’ll be genuinely excited to start your mornings.

1. Early to Bed, Early to Rise: The Timeless Wisdom That Works

Remember when Mama said, “Early to bed, early to rise”? Now we finally understand why she was right. Going to bed early lets your body rest fully and prepares you for a productive day ahead. Set your alarm for a reasonable hour and stick to it, girl—you’ll wake up feeling refreshed and ready to conquer.

2. Meditation Sessions: Find Your Calm and Clarity

Make time for meditation every day. Even a few minutes can bring clarity and peace. Meditation helps your mind and body relax, reducing stress that builds up throughout the day. Prioritize this self-care moment; it’s a game changer.

3. Hydrate, Girl, Hydrate!

You can never hear this enough: water does wonders for your body, skin, and hair. Carry a bottle of water with you all day, especially during summer or dry seasons. Staying hydrated helps you look and feel your best—trust me, you’ll notice the glow.

The Power of Self-Love: A Playlist for Black Women

Why Self-Love is a Revolutionary Act for Black Women

As Black women, we constantly encourage ourselves to love our skin, hair, and bodies—because self-love is the ultimate rebellion in a world that tries to tear us down.

Music as a Tool for Black Women Empowerment

Music is one of the most powerful ways I’ve found to fuel that love, so I’ve put together a Sunday playlist just for you (and me) filled with empowering songs by brilliant Black women artists.

Celebrate Black Femininity Through Music

This playlist isn’t just background noise—it’s a daily reminder to celebrate our beautiful Black femininity and to keep loving ourselves fiercely.

Voices That Preach Self-Love

You’ll hear voices that preach one message: self-love is revolutionary. And yes, Queen Bey makes more than one appearance because how could she not?

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1. Beyonce – Pretty Hurts
   

2. Alicia Keys – Girl on Fire
   

3. Nicki Minaj ft Beyonce – Feeling Myself
   

4. Mary J. Blige ft ASAP Rocky – Love yourself
   

5. Janelle Monae ft Erykah Badu – Q.U.E.E.N

6. Beyonce – Flawless
   

7. Beyonce ft Wizkid, Blue Ivy Carter & SAINt JHN – Brown skin girl
   

8. Kelly Rowland – Crown
   

9. SZA ft Kendrick Lamar – Doves in the Wind
   

10. Diana Ross – I’m Coming Out
    

11. Lizzo – Good as Hell
    

12. Kehlani – Bright
    
    

Put on your headphones, press play, and let these soulful, uplifting tracks remind you that you are deserving of all the love in the world. This is for your spirit, your heart, and your crown. I love you.

Women Have Needs: The Truth About Desire, and Boundaries

We all have needs. Some are mild, others can border on extreme—and yes, that can be unhealthy for both partners. But let’s be clear: this isn’t about serial stalkers or the constant, demanding kind of neediness driven by deep insecurities. That’s another conversation.

This is about a universal truth: we all want to be thought of, wanted, and desired. And for women, especially, that desire for connection is often misjudged.

Why Wanting to Be Wanted Is Human—Not Weakness

It’s innate in all of us—men and women—to want to feel special. To be set apart. To know we matter. This is a need rooted in our nature, and often shaped by how we were nurtured (or not) in childhood.

From the rejections and failed relationships we experience as we grow, many of us start searching for fulfillment in a partner. Someone who can make us feel sexy, wanted, and desired. But here’s the hard truth: no one else can heal the insecurities you’ve picked up over the years.

Why Physical Intimacy Alone Won’t Fill the Void

Some women (and men) use the lure of sex or physical pleasure to feel that deeper desire. But it’s temporary. The high wears off, and you’re left staring at someone who feels like a stranger—feeling emptier than before.

That’s because intimacy without self-worth is just a placeholder. The real work starts with learning to love your imperfections perfectly, first.

A Message to Men: Respect the Need, Don’t Exploit It

• Be genuine in your intentions, first and foremost.
• Communicate your boundaries clearly—from the start.
• Don’t string her along once you “get” her.
• Never exploit her need to be wanted just to feed your own ego.

A Message to Women: Own Your Needs and Speak Them

• Communicate your needs—without shame or hesitation.
• Don’t pretend you’re fine with less than you deserve, then explode later.
• Stop accepting less in the hope it will turn into more.

Unspoken boundaries turn into unrealistic expectations. And expectations almost always lead to disappointment—sometimes heartbreak.

The Real Secret to Healthy Relationships

It’s not rocket science. Be a good human. Be honest with yourself. Be honest with the people you date. Communicate openly. Respect each other’s needs.

Because ultimately, you can’t expect someone else to crown you worthy—you have to give yourself that crown first.

2 Steps to Powerful Personal Growth

Transform Your Mindset, Embrace Self-Love, and Thrive Through Life’s Challenges

Anthony Robbins famously teaches the 6 human needs: certainty, variety, significance, love and connection, growth, and contribution. Of all these, growth is one of the most reliable paths to lasting happiness.

When you prioritize personal growth, you start finding joy in the journey itself — not just in a specific outcome. You notice yourself responding to life’s challenges with more grace, patience, and empowerment. That’s the kind of joy that comes from evolving, from knowing that no matter what happens, you can handle it.

In this article, I’ll share two simple yet powerful steps that will help you grow, love yourself more deeply, and turn life’s obstacles into opportunities.

Step 1: Change Your Relationship With Obstacles

Instead of judging yourself or trying to “fix” who you are when challenges arise, try approaching them with loving acceptance.

Here’s how:

• Notice your body’s reaction. If you feel your chest tighten, your stomach knot, or emotions like sadness, anger, or jealousy arise — pause.
• Breathe love into that part of you. Imagine the unconditional love you feel for a child, pet, or someone dear to you. Visualize that love flowing from your heart into the part of you that feels constricted.

Over time, this practice builds a powerful sense of self-acceptance. You stop waiting for external approval or specific achievements to feel worthy. You start welcoming all parts of yourself — even the messy, imperfect ones.

Pro tip: When an obstacle appears, ask yourself:

“What are you here to teach me? What lesson is in this for me?”
Then, close your eyes, get mindful, and listen.

Step 2: Take One Small Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

Growth doesn’t require a giant leap. In fact, pushing yourself too far too fast can trigger fear or even a trauma response. Instead, take a tiny, manageable step toward something that stretches you — just enough to expand your comfort zone without overwhelming you.

These small acts build confidence and momentum. Before you know it, you’ll look back and realize how far you’ve come — one step at a time.

The Beauty of This Approach

When you combine self-love with gentle, consistent action, growth becomes something you look forward to instead of dread. You learn to trust yourself. You develop resilience. And you discover that joy comes not from the destination, but from who you become along the way.

If this resonates with you, connect with me on Instagram @soulintheraw. I’d love to hear your insights and celebrate your growth journey.

Finding Love: Why Magic Can’t Be Chased

The Dating Struggle: Searching for Connection

If you’re dating and searching for that elusive magic, this is for you. Most people know about writer’s block — that frustrating moment when words won’t flow no matter how hard you try. Well, I was feeling that same kind of block, but with dating. I was hopeless, impatient, and frustrated because I just wasn’t meeting anyone who could keep my interest for more than a day or two.

The Challenges of Modern Dating

It wasn’t for lack of trying either. I was connecting with men who were interested and wanted to meet up, but most just wanted to sleep with me — and honestly, they didn’t even know how to really connect, physically or mentally.

Why Physical Connection Isn’t Enough

Sex isn’t just sex for me. It’s got to be more than that. When the mental connection is strong, the physical takes you places beyond the mind. Without that, it’s just boring and unsatisfying.

Seeking a Meaningful Relationship

I need a man who’s genuinely intrigued by me. Someone who wants to know what makes me tick — in every way. And I want that too. When I don’t get it, I get bored. And sure enough, I end up disappointed — over and over again. I’ve lost count of how many times this has happened. I’d rather lose count of orgasms, not disappointments.

When Chemistry Doesn’t Click

Then there were the men who caught my attention mentally but where the physical just… didn’t click. After a kiss, a coffee, or even sex, something inside me switched off, and I couldn’t explain why.

Having those honest conversations was hard. One guy even took my rejection as a challenge, which just annoyed me. Others were respectful, which somehow made me feel worse about not fully understanding why things weren’t working.

The Realization: Stop Hunting for Magic

So I decided to stop hunting for magic. Because magic can’t be found — it finds you. I’d spent months chasing butterflies and rainbows in all the usual places. It was pointless but necessary. I needed that “ah ha” moment. I needed to feel the frustration to realize my energy was misplaced — chasing something outside me instead of focusing on what I could control.

Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in Dating

Now, I’m focused on my own emotional intelligence and cultivating my magic — so one day, it will meet its match.