Here’s how to break the cycle:

Own your choices, and step into the person you’ve always imagined

How to Break Free from Your Past and Choose a New Way of Being

Born Pure, Shaped by Our Stories

We are born into the world as nothing—pure, innocent beings who have yet to become someone. Over time, we’re raised with the principles and values of our family, carrying the weight of many generations before us. Life experiences—both joyful and painful—shape us into the people we are today: the good, the bad, and the in-between.

How Family Shapes—and Sometimes Limits—Us

Many of us notice traits we’ve inherited from our families. Some of us conform to those ways, while others rebel and create an opposite path. Some use family history as motivation to break cycles and forge new ways of being, while others feel compelled to repeat the past.

The truth? We have the power to decide what continues and what ends. Our present and future do not have to mirror the past.

Breaking the Cycle Starts with Awareness

If we want change, we must first see how the past has served us—both positively and negatively. Without this awareness, the cycle continues.

For me, one defining trait is stubbornness. Growing up, I often got my way, and now I do whatever it takes to achieve what I want. This determination can make me a force of nature—but it can also lead people to agree with me for the wrong reasons. When that happens, I ask myself: Do I want to carry this forward, or is there an opportunity to choose differently?

Choosing a New Way of Being

Growth means identifying which traits serve us—and which ones don’t. It means giving ourselves permission to change, even when others resist. Friends and family may take longer to accept our transformation, and that’s okay.

When challenges arise, remember why you chose this new way of being. Think about what you’re creating for yourself and the people you love.

Your Past Does Not Define You

The way you’ve become doesn’t have to be the way you remain. You can choose to be someone new—today, tomorrow, and always. Go forward boldly, free from the limitations of your past.

Love Always,
Amberly - @ambersabourin