Tips for giving hand jobs

Aug 4, 2020
Written by
Talya Feldman-Lloyd
Photographed by
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ersonally, I’m not a fan of giving handjobs, unless they’re accompanied by a blow job. 

That being said, I went through a phase when I was younger where I thought giving handjobs were super cool, so I’ve definitely picked up a few tricks that I’d like to share with you. 

Here we go… 

1. Moisturize! A handjob is, surprise surprise, all about the hands. So my first tip is to make sure that your hands are exfoliated, soft, and moisturized prior to beginning a handjob. Ain’t nobody want dry, peeling and callused hands massaging their dick. Can you say painful? … ouch! 

2. Start by rubbing your partners penis over top of their pants. This is the perfect time to whisper naughty nothings in their ear, as you nibble their ear lobe, kiss them, and get them nice and hard, and prepared for a little fun. 

3. As you reach into their pants and pull out their penis, be gentle with your hands and fingers. I don’t recommend just diving in and starting to go at it hard. I suggest you ease into it. Tease them a little, making every touch one that is intensely desired and longed for. 

4. Use your spit and/ or your partners precum as lube to massage the penis, up and down. At this point, I would spit gently on the tip of the head, and use the precum to slide your fingers and hands up and down the shaft. Use gentle strokes and unpredictable motions with your fingers to intensify the experience.

5. Throw in a twist! Rather than using your hand to simply rub up and down, try twisting your hand(s) around the shaft, like you were grinding pepper. Make sure there’s enough lube as your twisting, or you can end up pinching the skin on the shaft, and that shit can hurt. 

6. As one hand is twisting and moving up and down on the shaft, use the other hand to stimulate the tip of the penis. You can lick your fingers first to use as a natural lube, before massaging the tip. 

7. Don’t forget the balls! Massaging the testicles is an added bonus that many people enjoy. Begin with fondling them, and work your way up to gentle squeezing. If you’re feeling brave, you can try giving them a tug, BUT make sure to check in with your partner before you do this. 

8. Experiment with temperature play. Using different temperatures to stimulate the penis is something that many associate purely with BDSM. This is incorrect. You don’t have to be into BDSM in order to enjoy temp play. You can experiment with different temperatures by introducing things like wax play, or ice cubes. 

9. Prostate play. To stimulate the prostate (or male G-spot), slide a finger inside the anus, about 2-3 inches in, and then curl them backwards towards his balls. The position of the prostate in the ass is similar to G-spot in the vagina. Then stimulate it, press on it, massage it, and move your fingers in and out. Prostate stimulation can produce longer and more intense orgasms. TIP: Make sure to use lots of lube AND to trim your nails before you participate in prostate play.

10. Have you ever tried edging? Edging is the sexual act of bringing yourself or a partner up to the point of orgasm, and then stopping the stimulation just before release/ orgasm. Repeat the process, and enjoy the excitement associated with the stop and go play.   

Hopefully these 10 tips will help spice up your handjob skills and will make you partner drool at the thought of another handy from you. 

Did I forget your favourite trick? …

message me at @talking.with.talya to clue me in. 

Until next time, babes!


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