Women Have Needs:
The Truth About Desire, Boundaries, and Self-Worth
We all have needs. Some are mild, others can border on extreme—and yes, that can be unhealthy for both partners. But let’s be clear: this isn’t about serial stalkers or the constant, demanding kind of neediness driven by deep insecurities. That’s another conversation.
This is about a universal truth: we all want to be thought of, wanted, and desired. And for women, especially, that desire for connection is often misjudged.
Why Wanting to Be Wanted Is Human—Not Weakness
It’s innate in all of us—men and women—to want to feel special. To be set apart. To know we matter. This is a need rooted in our nature, and often shaped by how we were nurtured (or not) in childhood.
From the rejections and failed relationships we experience as we grow, many of us start searching for fulfillment in a partner. Someone who can make us feel sexy, wanted, and desired. But here’s the hard truth: no one else can heal the insecurities you’ve picked up over the years.
Why Physical Intimacy Alone Won’t Fill the Void
Some women (and men) use the lure of sex or physical pleasure to feel that deeper desire. But it’s temporary. The high wears off, and you’re left staring at someone who feels like a stranger—feeling emptier than before.
That’s because intimacy without self-worth is just a placeholder. The real work starts with learning to love your imperfections perfectly, first.
A Message to Men: Respect the Need, Don’t Exploit It
- Be genuine in your intentions, first and foremost.
- Communicate your boundaries clearly—from the start.
- Don’t string her along once you “get” her.
- Never exploit her need to be wanted just to feed your own ego.
A Message to Women: Own Your Needs and Speak Them
- Communicate your needs—without shame or hesitation.
- Don’t pretend you’re fine with less than you deserve, then explode later.
- Stop accepting less in the hope it will turn into more.
Unspoken boundaries turn into unrealistic expectations. And expectations almost always lead to disappointment—sometimes heartbreak.
The Real Secret to Healthy Relationships
It’s not rocket science. Be a good human. Be honest with yourself. Be honest with the people you date. Communicate openly. Respect each other’s needs.
Because ultimately, you can’t expect someone else to crown you worthy—you have to give yourself that crown first.
