How I Escaped

a Toxic Relationship and Chose Myself

Always a Bridesmaid, Never a Bride

In my early 20s, I was always a bridesmaid, but never a bride. My romantic relationship was so toxic that my friends wouldn’t even allow him at their weddings. I longed for the love I saw around me, yet I kept choosing a manipulative man and falling into a cycle of abuse.

He lied, cheated, ignored my calls and texts, called me names, broke my cell phone, threw my belongings off our balcony, and even locked me out of our apartment. For years, I believed him when he told me it was my fault.

The Moment I Knew I Had to Leave

One morning, while blow-drying my hair, he appeared around the corner with scissors. I was terrified. He screamed at me, grabbed the dryer, and cut the cord.

Later that day, at a bridal shower, after a few glasses of bubbly, I confided in my best friends that I felt trapped and helpless. With their love and support, we kicked off our heels, left the shower, and stormed up to my apartment. Together, we packed my belongings into their cars.

It was over. Don’t ever mess with a girl’s blow dryer!

Rebuilding Love and Self-Worth

Rebuilding my story around love took time and dedication. But in that moment, I raised my standards instantly.

I beg you to:

• Trust your gut
• See your worth
• Leave an abusive relationship

Will I ever be a bride? Yes, if I choose. And you have that choice too.

Why Women Are Choosing Themselves First

Women are asked why we marry later in life. My theory: we think for ourselves. We listen to our hearts, use our voices, and no longer conform to outdated gender roles.

Having the right to choose allows us to select partners who are healthy and loving. Your left-hand ring finger does not define you. Your wisdom, boundaries, and choices do.

Help and Resources for Abusive Relationships

If you are in an abusive relationship, you are not alone. Please reach out for help:

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233