He Rejected Me?!
Yep, He Rejected Me.
It started off like most years—full of promise and excitement.
I was in full-on business mode with a new side hustle launching that spring, and things were off to a great start.
On the personal side, well... I’m still single. Not for lack of trying. But yes:
S. I. N. G. L. E.
This Is Not a Plea for a Boyfriend
Let me be clear:
- I’m not lonely.
- I’m not distressed about being single.
- I’m not worried if I never find anyone.
Do I want to meet someone? Absolutely. But I’m not desperate for just anyone.
I’ve done the work—years of it. I understand my emotions. I embrace them. I love who I am, inside and out. It may have taken 39 years, but hey—better late than never, right?
Why Rejection Still Hurts
Self-work takes dedication, patience, kindness, and most of all—forgiveness.
So when I meet someone who seems just as self-aware as I am, I get excited. I throw myself in, expecting them to see the magic in me:
- My loving nature
- My sense of fun
- My solid career and independence
- My passion, romance, and thoughtfulness
And then… they reject me.
The Sting of “Not Enough”
It hurts. It makes me question whether I’ve done enough work—or if I’m “too much and not enough” all at once.
Our friends try to console us:
“They’re an idiot not to see how amazing you are.”
“It’s their loss—they’ll regret this!”
And maybe that’s true. But what we really want is for that person—the one we felt was perfect—to want us back.
The Excuses I’ve Heard
Here are the greatest hits:
- “You’re amazing, but I’m just not ready for a relationship.”
- “I’m just dating, I can’t commit to one person.”
- “I’m not sure what I want right now.”
- “My life is just too busy.”
Busy? So am I. The difference? I make time when I’m genuinely interested. #ComeUpWithABetterExcuse
Disappointments That Shaped This Year
- Friends who let me down in ways that hurt deeply.
- Boys pretending to be men, just looking for a quick hookup.
- Good men who excited me, but couldn’t dive deep enough for real connection.
It sucks. All of it.
Choosing Love Over Bitterness
Here’s what I’m not going to do:
- Let disappointment define me.
- Let rejection jade my spirit.
- Close myself off from new friendships.
- Compare the next man to the ones who hurt me.
- Let hurt turn into desperation or regret.
Here’s what I will keep doing:
- Loving
- Giving
- Wishing
- Listening to my intuition
- Believing in magic and possibilities
- Writing my truth
From ~ B [@sexinthe6ixblog]
